• 1 month ago

    Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    My wife is 43, for several years now she had a ‘spell of irritability and combativeness’ almost every 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 months.
    For 4 to around 8 days she is almost impossible to interact with, and I’m the bad guy for everything, and because I have encouraged her to have her hormones tested- I’m treated like I’m trying to have her ‘sent off’.
    I have had zero luck at getting her to see a medical professional about her mood swings. She does want to admit it.
    Her family does not want to see it, I’m being a controlling husband by trying to ‘make her’ do something.

    Does this sound like a hormonal issue?

    What doctors / areas/professionals should I seek?

    Any ideas or advice for me- ?

Responses

  • 1 month ago

    RE: Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    Update: She does Not want to admit she has an issue- to me or others
      • 1 month ago
        She is 43. Some people have menopausal after 50 though. She may or may not have this. But it is better to do the test.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    Hi Start with a gyn,and take from there, also have a look at the vids the Mary Jane Mimkin has on her site, madamovary.com MJM is this forum gyn.

    NOWHARD
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    Would she be open to couples counselling? Because if you can't get her to accept that she has a problem then there is no point in looking into which doctor to see because she just won't go.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    Thanks for the information and responses
    -Husband
  • RE: Premenopausal? Husband needs advice.

    Dear Anonymous,
    Good for you for caring about her! Very difficult to say if there is something hormonal going on here. I am assuming she is still having periods? Is she? Presuming she is having periods, would she be amenable to charting her symptoms (like keeping track of any mood changes and charting them against her menstrual cycles? There is a good chart called the DRSP, or daily rating of severity of problems-you can download it from the web. It sounds like it would be a good thing for her to do , in general-because she will then be able to see exactly how often symptoms are coming, and exactly which symptoms are happening-and are they related to cycles? A chart like this would be helpful for her to review with a gynecologist, or a therapist.
    And going to couples counseling would also be an excellent idea-of course, she has to want to go-
    Good luck,
    Mary Jane