• 6 months ago

    How can I stay fit with a partner who doesn't eat healthy or exercise

    My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, and I've been practically living at his house for the past 3 months. I used to never eat out and was raised to always avoid fast food because of the cost and amount of sodium and fats in the food. However, my boyfriend lives on fast food. He eats it at least twice a day. We've been eating dinner together almost every night for the past 3 months, and since he eats fast food, thats what I eat. His unhealthy habits are rubbing off on me, and I've gained 15 pounds in the past 3 months.I try to get him to buy groceries so we arent eating out every night, but even then he buys frozen foods that he can throw in the deep fryer like corn dogs and fries. I try to encourage him to take walks with me or do some sort of exercise together, but he always refuses. How do I encourage him to make better food choices and get him to exercise with me before we're both morbidly obese and die of a heart attack at 40? I love him dearly but his unhealthy lifestyle is affecting my lifestyle now, and I need him to change his habits.

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  • 6 months ago

    RE: How can I stay fit with a partner who doesn't eat healthy or exercise

    Perhaps this is the unfortunate sign that you are not compatible, despite your love for him. You have vastly different values. Perhaps some time apart will help you reevaluate why you are making an unhealthy choice. You cannot make someone change. If you lead by example and he doesn't want to follow, you are not required to martyr yourself.
  • 6 months ago

    RE: How can I stay fit with a partner who doesn't eat healthy or exercise

    I suggest taking the initiative yourself to do the shopping and the cooking; that way you can go for fresh and healthy foods. If he sees how much fun you have cooking and how tasty it can be, perhaps it will 'rub off' on him. But you have to set an example and be happy in doing so. Frozen veg are also just as good as fresh and last longer so don't be afraid to get some in the freezer. Good luck.
  • 6 months ago

    RE: How can I stay fit with a partner who doesn't eat healthy or exercise

    Dear Katy,
    You are doubtless a very nice and thoughtful person, but don't be so loyal that you compromise your own health. His refusal to eat better and exercise is a form of rejection of your better nature, so act accordingly.
  • RE: How can I stay fit with a partner who doesn't eat healthy or exercise

    Katy100,

    Weight loss can be a lonely ….. we've also heard that obesity is contagious; I understand your concerns but there is hope without having to end your relationship.

    First, communication between couples is key particularly when goals differ. Ensuring that you’re clear about your needs and how he can help will help reduce your despair and frustration. Take an active role, he may not understand, want, or be ready to make similar changes and you can’t force a change in his habits if he’s not ready or willing to do so.

    By being clear about your goals, your likes & dislikes, and expressing those clearly he may be able to help you. But even in a perfect world compromise may be needed.

    Talk to him about his part in this weight lose journey and discuss what he thinks is doable for him. Keep in mind that your weight loss goals may make him feel badly or uncomfortable about his own health or even inconvenienced by the changes you’re making to both your lives.

    Finally, find encouragement in others. Take this opportunity to network with other people that have similar interests, share weight loss recipes, and participate in events that push you to your weight loss goals. You might even find a new connection....
    Cheers,

    Dr Bruni