• 8 months ago

    Trying to lose weight is really hard work.

    I'm going to be 42 years old this coming September. I have three awesome kids, 2 boys in high school and a daughter who is 11 and has Down syndrome. I'm tired of being the "fat" mom. I'm tired of shopping in the "plus" size section for clothes that hardly fit me properly. I have been trying to lose weight for the past 6 months, and it's been a challenge. I started my weight loss journey when I tipped the scale at 302 lbs. That is when I had my come to Jesus moment with myself. Over the years, I allowed food to become my comfort. I have been through some really hard times, and through those times I used food to make it through to the other side. Anyway, I hate exercising. Yet, I know this is something that I need to do. I really want to be able to do a 5K one day - when I can actually walk fast enough to do it without falling over from breathing so heavy! I joined weight watchers at work and I really didn't get anything out of it. The lady showed up, weighed all of us in, spoke for a few minutes, while everyone sat and ate lunch, and then we went on our merry way 45 minutes later. She hardly ever talked about recipes, or ways to try to improve our eating. She often spoke about herself. Needless to say, I didn't understand how to count the points right, and she made it so darn confusing with the activity points. Several co-workers stopped going because they felt it was just a waste of time. I made it to every meeting, hoping that something would start to make sense, needless to say .. none of it was very beneficial. I got down to 270 lbs with the help of adipex prescribed by my doctor. I was getting really upset because I couldn't see any number less than 270 for 3 weeks straight. Then, I got sick with the flu, and didnt' get back to my doctor for the past 3 months and now I'm sitting at 283 lbs. I'm so upset at myself. I'm tired of losing the "Same" pounds. I'm not the best eater, I don't like a lot of vegetables other than, corn, peas, green beans, cooked carrots, vegetables if they are in soup. I like chicken, beans, eggs. I guess underneath, I just don't know where to start when it comes to meal planning for weight loss. Where does a person start? I really need some guidance with this, and I look forward to hearing back from anyone who has suggestions. Oh, and I recently bought a gym membership. A lot of people were saying it's a waste of money, however, I'm thinking it's going to be a chance for me to break away from the kids, the hubby, and the housework, and schedule at least 2 - half hour sessions at he gym for "me" time. Please share your thoughts. I'm really needing some help. Thanks so much.


  • 7 months ago

    RE: Trying to lose weight is really hard work.

    I have had the same struggles -- some I've overcome and others, not so much. I am down 40#s from my highest weight. Here are some things that have helped me:
    - Start walking. It's the easiest exercise to begin. As an emotional eater, I found that it relieved stress, gave me a high, and I found ways to make it more enjoyable (like walking with friends or listening to my ipod).
    - In the gym, try lots of different things until you find something you love. For me, it was Spinning and Pilates. I could barely last half a class when I started and that was embarassing but, you know what? This is about YOU. Nobody there is laughing or judging.
    - Don't put so much pressure on yourself to change the number on the scale. Know that if you're doing the right things, the right things WILL start happening. This is a journey to health, not a vacation.

    There are several books lately that were revelations to me: The Bulletproof Diet, Eat Stop Eat, and The Complete Guide to Fasting by Dr. Jason Fung, MD. All three are science-based. One addresses how our gut biome impacts our weight and intermittent fasting, the second how the hormone leptin affects women on calorie restricted diets and the joke of weight loss supplements, and third ties these two together while also discussing how insulin resistance impacts our bodies' ability to lose weight.

    Good luck and God bless, sister!
  • 7 months ago

    RE: Trying to lose weight is really hard work.

    Hi Mamasithster, I totally get what you're saying and hear you! I'm 43 and am having a similar struggle! My husband thinks surgery is the only answer (maybe it is?) so I'm exploring that, but have also gone down the WW road and have a gym membership, but am often too tired to get there - working outside the house, a daughter, and regular life stuff (housework, paperwork, etc...) make it difficult! I don't have any good answers for you other than to say that you're not alone!