• 3 months ago


    I'm 3 months shy of my 40th birthday, and for the past 14 years I have suffered from erectile dysfunction and I have never been able to figure out why. I am in good health. I exercise. My diet is not the best, but I'm not undernourished. My cardiovascular health is fine. Also, I get erections in the morning, or when I don't particularly want them - but rarely when I do.

    I have taken Viagra, Cialis, and now OTC sildenafil, all with unrealiable results. It takes a long time for me to get an erection (if I'm going to at all), and often when I do, I'm so close to ejaculating that there isn't much I can do with it. *** rings don't seem to help.

    I always practice safer sex, and yet the time it takes to put on a condom almost always contributes to deflation. Even when I'm successfully performing intercourse, more often than not I start to lose my erection inside after a while.

    I've seen urologists, and they have not been able to detect anything physically wrong with me. The best of them said that my pelvic floor is extremely tight from stress and anxiety; yet antianxiety medication, kegel exercises, and the like have had no effect. I see a psychiatrist for depression but my antidepressant (buproprion aka Wellbutrin) is not supposed to have sexual side effects. I see a therapist regularly, but we haven't been able to crack the mystery.

    Just now, I returned half an hour ago from an encounter that should have been fun. The person who messaged me via an app was beautiful and just my type - and yet after half an hour of trying, my penis still refused to play along. So now I'm feeling embarrassed and disappointed - like I'm a failure as a man.

    I don't know what I'm looking for here, but I just wanted to reach out and get this off my chest. If anyone can relate or has any insights or suggestions, I'd love to hear from you. Thanks.


  • 3 months ago

    RE: ED

    Hi OK the first thing you need to do is go find a physoitherapist who works with the pelvic floor doping kegels could be making it worst for you, for your depression and anxiety you need meditation, get this working and with the help of your doctor you can get weaned of the drugs for both, find a local group to teach you the art of meditation, then its something you have for life.

    Guys who can get an erection any time of the day good enough for sexual penetration does not have ED, so you can put your mind to rest there.

    I think if you get the top 3 things sorted out you be OK and get an erction anytime you want one.

    Have you ever had your hormones checked out via a blood test, get that done and ask for a copy of the results, then you can check out your results, but never accept normal till you know yourself.