• 11 days ago

    I’m pretty sure I tore her hymen, will this make sex less painful in the future?

    I’m not very educated in this topic so bear with me... My girlfriend and I tried to have vaginal sex twice. Prior to this I was able to finger her with no discomfort (I couldn’t do two fingers though.) I do have large hands and an above-average sized number... The first time we had no success because whenever I tried to penetrate her it caused a lot of discomfort even though we took it pretty slow and used lubricated condoms. We tried again two days later, but this time we used lube we bought from the store in addition to the lubricated condoms. I penetrated her and and she jerked back in pain. We assumed that we were a bad angle so we tried to change positions. As we were doing it I realized that she was bleeding profusely (it was bright red and didn’t stop for several hours, and she definitely wasn’t on her period.)

    It’s the day after and she’s stopped bleeding. She looked in the mirror and it appears she was bleeding from her hymen. We were both virgins before and we used protection so there’s no way she has an STD. Could the discomfort she was feeling before be from her hymen? If not what could be the answer for her pain? If it is her hymen could her tearing it help with the discomfort the next time we try?

    We are going to wait several weeks before we try again. I just hope she can finally enjoy herself when we do because I don’t want to have anxiety about accidentally hurting her.

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