• 13 days ago

    Pain for partner during sexual intercourse. Symptoms showing?

    My last unprotected sexual partner was almost 10 months ago. After i had sex, I feared having an STD/STI because my penis just felt abnormally warm. I waited a few weeks and got tested for gono and chlamydia. Negative for both. After i was tested, my mind was at ease and that symptom went away. I was even tested again a few months later by a different doctor and chlamydia trachomitis+Gono came back clean again. Still had no symptoms but I wanted to make sure.

    Fast forward to now, and I have since been in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend which began about a month after that encounter. Me and her had unprotected sex about a month after my previous encounter. And we’ve had sex like rabbits for 9+ months now. Except recently, she experienced some terrible pain during sex. To the point where entry is not happening. She insists that it may be a result of friction and lubrication, which can always be better. We used a glycerin based lube and I foolishly placed a dab on her clitoris during cunnilingus and it burned when she peed.

    We’ve went this long with zero symptoms or issues during sex. Now, I have been urinating frequently possibly due to anxiety about this. I’ll experience a light lower back discomfort which I would describe as internal. And I tend to have an “itch” around the head area maybe once or twice a day. Not persistent to the point of discomfort or emergency, but an annoyance every now and then.

    She doesn’t have a frothy discharge. No foul odor. The only itching or pain vagina-wise is during sex and post-shaving around the pubic area. She’s complained of fatigue recently as well?

    I’ve called nurses and they insist that it isn’t a yeast infection because there’s no discharge. I went to the ER as well for dry skin on my shaft area and they said it does not look like yeast either.

    I’m having anxiety about this because I truly have been monogamous and me and her have been on a roll in our relationship. Meeting each other’s families, becoming healthier everything. I’m fearing that something pre-monogamy may be an STD and cause her to think I cheated and ruin everything.

    UTI? Yeast? Trich?

    Coming back clean on STDs three straight times has me uneasy on what could’ve sparked this random discomfort for her and symptoms in me.

    TLDR;
    Symptoms in partner and I popped up a month ago. Last sexual partner was 10 months ago.

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  • 12 days ago

    RE: Pain for partner during sexual intercourse. Symptoms showing?

    Hi I would say its down to anxiety and stress that you are putting on yourself, stress alone will give you problems and make you sick, every time you get a little itch you thinking to deep about each one and your passing it on to your GF.

    You need to de-stress yourself and stop thinking about STD's, start using coconut oil on your penis a couple of times a day and get your GF to use it on her vagina the same, and use it for sex as give that extra slop and its very vagina friendly, and it fights YI's, so that should help you overcome some of your problems.

    If you cant de-stress your self turn to meditation, its very good for that, if you don't know how then find a local group to teach you the art of meditation.

    NOWHARD