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  • 4 months ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    I am really sorry to read how much you have been going through, I know it is difficult, not easy to manage the pain of losing your husband. To provide you with support I can tell you that there is always a way out, and that everything can be overcame.

    This is the perfect time to find support in friends, and specially in our Creator. You need time to heal your emotional wounds, and to meditate on what matters the most in life.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    As a widower of a 43 year marriage I found the website www.optionb.org to be a valuable tool as well as the book by the same name. When you go to the website, scroll down to the grief section for useful stories and resources including groups. If you then scroll to the bottom and click on 'additional resources' you will be linked to a list of additional support sites. I speak from experience that with the right kind of support and a personal support network, which you may need to recreate, you can move through this horrible tragedy and find joy and meaning to your life. It may be a different kind of joy but it will be joy.
  • RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    As others have said, I am so SO sorry to hear what you are going through. I wish I was able to hug you if hugs would make you feel better. I've have not lost a spouse but I have lost many people who were very loved and close to me, so close and loved that now my head and heart refuse to let anyone else into my life or let them get close to me. Do you have ANYONE that either you can stay with or maybe that could come and stay with you during this severely difficult time? I suffer from insomnia (hence my screen name) so if you EVER need to talk, let me know and I would LOVE to chat with you. Even during the day I am available since I only effectively operate on 2 hours of broken sleep. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
      • 4 months ago
        i am sorry to hear about your lost of many... i understand that you can not let anyone get into your heart. i do not have spouse anymore it is true now. and it is making me more strong and let me understand about people more. yes i do have love one person. i will have love for that person for forever in my heart cause it is real. no fake like your a lot lost love ones. you know those people who left you and your love for those was not your real love. the one as always came back to you meaning that one really have love for you. and understood you so that came back to you. So, if any scenario will happen in your life meaning you own a real love. So, never let go that one. you know why... you would not find again similar like one. thanks for sharing all this
      • 4 months ago
        actually i did not lost my spouse. my Spouse lost me for forever. the mental and physical pain i got from my spouse i would not forgive never. i am preparing everything for my peace, my spouse do not want never want. i want cause now i know this person as my spouse never meant to be for me. and within a year i will be a free person and free. and i know i will get the love again as a real love from someone maybe outside who is waiting for me GOD knows best.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    try hard to live on your own i know you need support but i believe that you are stronger you are just feeling too dependent on people, getting people support is good if they don't abuse you but. you are strong on the inside you never tapped into it and people have been taking advantage of you excessively your husbands they feel you dont live up to their expectations. God is your help and strength find a pastor, your life is a life of limitation and you will walk into independence i believe in my mind that you will live a life filled with so much joy, hope, and renewal
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    sorry about your loss, i believe you will find someone who will give you the support you need some how God is going to give you one soon find a nurse, or someone who you have an emotional connection with and get married start new family i believe your husband is on the way most men don't like committing to women especially in western nations God will give you one i have actually been a victim of depression for long though never been in any relationship because i just didn't find someone who can understand me but i am happy i have a job i work i finished college and i am just single an happy for now. college was hard for me being an A student growing up somehow doctors said i hav a hormonal dysbalance that is why i am depressed and in africa we dont have the facilities to correct such things so i am just on anti depressants and hormones for now, healthcare is expensive here
      • 4 months ago
        Do your best to move on ok i know sometimes you feel dumped and not understood i feel like that alot i am lucky i have a very good job so i take good care of my self health wise i mean a good job if not i would have been gone with my health condition i take progesterone, testosterone and anti depressants it is not easy it is a hormonl problem but they said they dont have the facilities to do the micro checking for me so they kind of left me to fate, i go to hospitals and they say we dont have this reagents to test you sorry we can test your hormones sorry and that is how they had been treating me in nigeria my phone is 08051747264 actually i am a writer i am writing 4 books now to distract me, my pay is so good my colleagues envy me a lot i dont know why
      • 4 months ago
        i am the smartest at here i work and they are not happy about it because they feel i dont deserve a lot of enefits i do get but i intend to transfer to another town in nigeria i believe that my hormone problem will stabilize with my age i am sure of it, doctors here just are not investigative they tell you things like i can only give you 4 minutes of my time i am too busy seeking for cash, i studied human anatomy medical student so i apply my knowledge to help myself with medications. The doctors dont know anything here in nigeria hormonally with a little time of maybe 2 years my hormones will stabilize on its own based on my medical training. But pray a lot and try to be happy have your kids around you and have fun, i believe try living with a relative for now i like having a support mate online also my phone number is +2348051747264 from nigeria
  • 4 months ago
      • 4 months ago
        i read all of your word and thank you for giving me courage. i know i can live by my own and i am following that path already. but having a person real love would be more supportive for me and i know i will get a real love one day.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    I too lost my husband of 33 years in June of 2018. I know how itt feels to be without my life partner, I too hit a depression but I had the love and support of my sons, my grandchildren, and siblings through the loss, grief, and sadness of being alone. 9 days after his passing from massive stroke I too had a stroke and the doctors felt it could have been due to the stress of his passing. Again I was lucky enough to have my family close by me to lean on for the support I needed to get through my rehabilitation, therapy, and health issues. After being discharged from the rehab hospital my son, daughter-in-law refused to let me move back into my home alone. They while I was in rehab moved my bed, personal belongings and pets into their home making me a space of my own. Without my husbands income I could not afford to keep my home of 29 years on my disability income so I have also lost my home back to the bank voluntary by signing the deed back to the mortgage company. This year has been so difficult in many ways for my family with the loss of a sibling, brother #1 - due to an aortic aneurysm, my husband from a stroke, my stroke, brother #2 - younger than me had a stroke in August, brother # 3 had a popliteal aneurysm in his left leg needing 3 procedures to save his leg & life, finding he also has another popliteal aneurysm in his right leg and an aortic aneurysm in his abdomen that will need to be monitored and have surgery if it gets larger, brother #4 had MDS a form of blood leukemia needing chemotherapy, a bone marrow transplant to be cured, and now is in remission. We all pray for each other to be safe & healthy for good soon. We have 1 other sibling a sister and we pry she doesn't end up with the health issues the rest of us have. We have found that we couldn't have gotten through this year without each other. But I also have a group of friends that I knit with before all this happened and I found that they stuck by me through the worst of everything giving me the love & support I needed. I Thank God everyday for my dearest friends that I consider my family also. They let me talk, they let me cry, they give me hugs, they give advise on what I should do, or who to seek for help & guidance. The advice I can give anyone is join a group of like people who are or have gone through the same as you Kimberlee. They will be your life savers & bring you through the worst that might still come weeks, months, years later. Hold tight to loved ones who will be there for you whether blood or close friends that are like family. But talk, talk, talk, it does help the healing process of getting through it one day at a time.
  • 11 days ago

    RE: Depression/Loss of Spouse

    Hi Kimberlee, it sounds like you need to go through an emotional detox so that you can heal from the pain and wounds of what have happened. Here is a program that works tremendously. It worked for me. Areyoustuckyouneedtocontactus.com