• 17 days ago

    Anxiety and depression are winning

    Hi I’m new to this forum. I haven’t been able to bring myself to talk to a doctor about my mental health issues and a friend told me to maybe join a chat forum for courage and support so here I am.
    For over the past year I’ve been letting depression and anxiety control my life. It’s controlling my work life. I can’t seem to hold a job and find my self quitting on myself over and over. It effects my sleep, appetite and just overal energy levels. I’m finding myself restless and moody all the time. I have extreme fits of anger over the littlest things.
    I just feel like giving up most days and just staying in bed and not ever coming out. Someone please help me

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  • 13 days ago

    RE: Anxiety and depression are winning

    If you have someone you trust and that you can manage to talk to about this, ask if they can help you follow through on these first few steps you'll need to take. If not, then it may just be on you to get yourself out to see someone. If so, try to break up the process into the smallest steps you can, no matter how silly they might seem.

    1. get out of bed
    2. look up the phone number
    3. call the number
    etc.

    Sometimes, having such small steps can help you not be as overwhelmed by the big picture.

    Find a psychologist who you can talk to about meds. I won't tell you whether you should try any or not, but they will most likely suggest some. It's a tricky process and you have to be pretty patient with it.

    Meanwhile, start looking for a therapist. This can take patience, too, because you want to find someone who you trust but who can also push you a bit when you need it. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that meds are a fix by themselves, but it's probably better to think of them as a pain medicine that allows you to do the work of physical therapy (i.e. therapy) that actually helps you heal.

    What you're going through is hard. It's okay to admit it and it's okay to get help. Your own brain is telling you these negative things and it can be hard to not believe them. But you're not alone in it, there are so many of us out here struggling, too. We're all forced to be our own advocates in this fight, at a time when we are least capable of being our own advocate. But you can do it. You really can. Try to recognize when the things you're telling yourself about yourself are coming from the depression and aren't real. Be kind to yourself, find ways to stay on the surface of things when you need to (I watch dumb shows that I have seen hundreds of times), and do the things you can when you can.

    Good luck to you.
      • 13 days ago
        P.S. The Psychology Today website has a large database of therapists which you can organize by location, rates, types of therapy, types of issues they specialize in, the works. It can be a good place to start.