• 8 months ago

    Why is a friend with depression so difficult to communicate with?

    I have a friend who says she has depression and anxiety and takes medication for both. We have been getting to know each other as friends for about 9 months now, coworkers first. She makes herself so hard to communicate with, I have to go where she is which is work and see her in person just to get some conversation. Sometimes that leads to hanging out when she’s done working if she doesn’t have other plans. When we part ways we usually hug so I know she likes me. If I text her it is extremely difficult to get a reply but I will see she read the message. I tell her if i’m Texting too much and being annoying let me know but I still don’t get a reply so it is difficult to tell what’s up. She does like her job a workaholic almost and she doesn’t usually look at her phone during work unless on break, work days are the days that sometimes I can get her attention when I text her. When she’s not working it seems like she isn’t doing anything constructive, she is on a stay cation this week and lives near where I work and live but I don’t see her and if I text I still get no reply.
    Last Saturday we made plans to hang out after we were both done working but she stood me up and texted, that sorry she was tired, it’s understandable we have the same job and she worked straight through the week with one day off. I felt gipped because the day before she couldn’t hang out with me because she was hanging out with other friends. The problem is she was going to pick that friend up from work take him home get high with him then drive him back to work while she was still high. I could keep going there is more but my question is, how do you communicate with a depressed person when they make it difficult? She also has a drug and alcohol problem but when you try to tell her you’re concerned she just blows it off. I should mention i’m not much of a social person or a very good communicator myself.

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  • 8 months ago

    RE: Why is a friend with depression so difficult to communicate with?

    Don't waste your time with this girl... you seem pretty level headed ... no need to get yourself caught up in that she doesn't want help keep your distance
      • 8 months ago
        That’s not nice. I think you should try and try. You may be her only savior in life.
  • 8 months ago

    RE: Why is a friend with depression so difficult to communicate with?

    Her depression might not have anything or very little to do with why she doesn't communicate very well. Maybe she just doesn't know how regardless of her diagnosis. Why do you assume that it's because of her depression?
  • 8 months ago

    RE: Why is a friend with depression so difficult to communicate with?

    Do you love her? Or just see her as a friend? If you love her the you may not like to she her with a Male friend hanging out with her for sure. And if you do not love her then it should not bother you if she ignoring your text or hanging with another man. What made you think that it is related with her desperation. It may not!!! She may ignoring you because of other man friend. She may have many man for fun who knows!!! May or may not be she is depress or anxious for someone. But it looks like not for you for sure. And why do you keep texting here where as she likes to ingnor you meaning playing with you. This sort of woman never fall in love to anyone. They like to play around. What made you think she likes you. Because she work with you and you sometimes get chance to hang out and can give her hug doesn't clear that she likes you. Have you ever kiss her or have sex with her. If no then what made you dream of her for what???? Do you think she will tell you that like you and keep communicate other coworkers by picking up and dropping off doesn't making you clear that she may having fun with those person as well. What made you not to believe that she is not playing with you.
    A person who really like other person never ever ingnor and never hang out with other guy and never make the person upset and tried to keep on touch and will try to let the person know that she really likes him.
    Decision is yours but you should not waste your time to think she likes you where as she having relationship with other man as a friend too.

    I do like and love a person and I told him that I like him. I never ingnor his chat. Almost everyone having dessprassion because of work or family or it could be anything. Some people can not overcome it, some people can. But let me clear you one things that ignoring a person who can be a friend is not or can not be related with depression.

    Good luck

    From Sabrina