• 1 month ago

    feeling alone, depressed & isolated

    I'm not totally alone; I have my adult son who is my companion. I've only had my son to talk to for many years now except for the occasional little chat with a fellow human. The only social life I've had is going out for coffee with my son. I have no life outside of my son. I haven't had a social life in more then a decade. Not that I ever had much of a social life even before then. I feel like I hate my life or should I say my no life. I sleep all day and I'm up all most the night. We can't go out anywhere at night since we've no car. I feel like my life is very unworthwhile. I'm getting older (pre-elder) and I have multiple health conditions. Plus most of my family of origin has scapegoated me. I know I need to seek mental help but when your sleep is as erratic as mine is, it's very hard to. I feel like such a loser. I feel like I've little ability to change my life for the better.

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  • 1 month ago

    RE: feeling alone, depressed & isolated

    Hi 2alone,

    Do you know what happened in your life that caused such change? Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like your, as you call it, "no life" started around 10 years ago, is that right? If that is correct, what happened that caused such a shift in your life?

    You seem to agree that seeing a therapist would be a good thing for you, but your upside down sleeping pattern makes that impossible at the time.

    Are you aware that there are therapists who will do therapy over Skype or any such program? There could be a good therapist out there who is able to accommodate you at a time that would work. It's worth looking into.

    Maybe someday down the road you will decide that you want to flip your sleeping time back to sleeping at night, which will or could open up other doors for you.

    If you don't mind my asking, how old is your son? It appears from your post that he is with you a LOT of the time, and I'm wondering how good that is for him. I'm sure he wants to help his mother, but he also deserves a life for himself, and I would think you want that for him too. Again, I realize that I don't know your situation other than what you wrote, so he may very well have a life outside of taking care of you; so forgive me if it sounds like I'm accusing you of anything. I'm not. I brought up as a "just in case" type of thing. Only you know how true or untrue it is.

    It's clear that you are not happy with how your life is right now, and it's good that you put a voice to your feelings. So continue to move forward so that one day you will be able to look back to your life as it is now and see change, healing, and a life that brings you love, hope, and joy! It really is possible!

    Do everything within your power to get the kind of help you need so that it's end result will be the kind of life you love! It's out there!

    There is hope!

    Debbie
  • 1 month ago

    RE: feeling alone, depressed & isolated

    if u need someone to talk to im here to help ...
  • 1 month ago

    RE: feeling alone, depressed & isolated

    if u need someone to talk to im here to help ...