• 10 days ago

    Mental Help

    I find myself constantly pondering what my problem is. I feel I am not happy and have not been happy in a very long time. Lately I have been having trouble sleeping and headaches before bed. I am constantly worried about my mental health and know that a psychologist is not a possibility for me. The little motivation in my life is completely gone. The work I produce is no longer at honors lever. My attempts to heal my sorrow repeatedly ends in failure. I feel as though I have no purpose and nothing to look forward to. Nothing is enough, and I fear my issues will only get worse. Pressure is building against me and I am desperate for an answer.

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  • 10 days ago

    RE: Mental Help

    Hi, I'm sorry that you are feeling so depressed and lacking in motivation! It's hard to feel like that on any given day, but when it's gone on for a significant amount of time, it can be extremely discouraging - especially if you don't know what you are going through and how to get out of it.

    I know the place from where you speak! I'm sure our circumstances are different, and the level of apathy varies; but it's still the same.

    I know that for me, the one thing that truly does help and keeps my perspective on point is having a therapist that I like and that I trust. She has truly given me a lot of life-changing direction, wisdom, and instruction!

    You said that a Psychologist is not a possibility for you. May I ask why? Is it because of the cost? If that's the case, how much do you think you could afford either once a week or twice a month? Could you afford something like $60 per session at least once a month, but preferably more? If you could, and finances are the only thing that has made you believe that you couldn't see a therapist, I would encourage you to try to find someone that you can afford.

    There is a site https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
    and if you click on it, you enter your zipcode and then "enter." Up will pop up therapists in your area. On the far left, you could filter what you are looking for. Like, if you only want a female, then check that, or if it doesn't matter, check. There are also various issues you can check - like, maybe you want someone who works with people with depression - so you check it. ANd there are other filters you can check or not.

    Then you look at each therapist (the are not Psychologist - they cost more) and read what they say - some of them also have a website you can look at. Then if you find someone you may be interested in, you can either call them or send an email. I've always sent an email. I briefly tell them my diag., what I am looking for, and I ask if they do a sliding scale fee (charge by what you can afford) and then I tell them upfront what I can afford so as to not waste either of our time. Then most of them will offer a free consultation either over the phone or in person, and either a half hour to an hour. That's a good time to ask some questions of them and find out their approach to therapy, etc. and sometimes you can tell right away if you don't like the person or do.

    Anyway, I don't know if money is the issue for you as to why you said you couldn't see a therapist, so disregard what I just said if it's not. :)

    At any rate, you would do yourself good if you can find someone not only to talk with about all you've been going through, but someone who can help you to figure out how to walk yourself out of it! You deserve that! A therapist is oftentimes the best person to connect with for that purpose, and I hope that if money is an issue, then you would find a way to make it work! If the issue is something else, then I hope that you will find a way to get the kind of help that you need so that you can begin to live your life in a way that brings you hope and joy!

    There IS hope - Always!

    Debbie
  • 9 days ago

    RE: Mental Help

    Having trouble sleeping and aches are common for me too! I worry all the time as well. The fact that you are reaching out on this support group shows that you still have some motivation left, I promise! I'm so proud of you for reaching out. There may not be one answer to answer them all, but you will find answers. Try to break things down one at a time. What feels good? If nothing feels good, what feels okay? What has helped me in the past is to write 3 good things that happened today. These positive things can be the smallest things ever. Maybe you really enjoyed a meal, maybe you just brushed your teeth, maybe you laughed at something. Try to celebrate the little things. Take it one day at a time (sometimes I take it minutes at a time). You can do this and it will get better, I promise.
  • 8 days ago

    RE: Mental Help

    Sounds like you love your little inspiration. It is not going anywhere. Do the right things! The way you said it.