• 24 days ago

    Long time Boyfriend suffering from Possible depression

    Hi all,
    Looking for any advice. My long time boyfriend is currently in a very dark place. He has struggled before with bad thoughts but usually comes out of it within a week if not less. It usually only happens 2 or 3 times a year. This time is different. It has happened twice within a month. He usually pushes me away when it happens but this time he told me he wanted space to figure things out and that we needed to take a break. I am heartbroken. I know I cannot fix the issue but I still want to support him through it. He told me he still loves me and cares but it really doesnt feel that way. Again, this has never happened where he wants to take a break. It's hard to not think I may cause some of the issue. I have gathered that he cant feel emotions or doesnt remember what happy is for example. He feels trapped and cant find any light at the end of the tunnel. He feels not himself and constantly just in a daze. I dont know what to do because he doesnt want my help. I am so sad because i love him but I'm trying to respect his decision. I am scared if I give him too much space he wont come back. It seems like he is pushing me away to protect me from his dark place but he doesnt listen when I say I care and understand. I'm just stuck and heartbroken. I am very worried about him but he does not want help. I dont know what to do. I'm trying to be hopeful but im scared without any human connection he is gonna get stuck in this dark place for too long. He works night shift so he only works with a few people and doesnt get to spend much time with others. I am so worried