• 2 months ago

    HIV risk to partner...

    My partner gave me oral sex for a few minutes one night 2 hours after he had a dental cleaning. So his mouth probably had inflammation and he might have had bleeding gums. He has very good oral hygeine normally and had no open sores or wounds in his mouth. Just 21 hours before he performed oral on me I had a risky sexual encounter with a stranger. If this stranger had hiv and had passed the virus onto me how long would it take to totally infect me? My parnter gave me oral 21 hours after my possible exposure. Does HIV take at least 24 hours to totally infect someone to the point where they can pass it on? Or is 21 hours enough and for me to have passed it onto him? Im very worried I have infected him and just need some answers if anyone knows anything about this :(

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  • 2 months ago

    RE: HIV risk to partner...

    Hiv doesn't happen in hours. Your most likely ok, you can go to your Dr, urgent care or hospital and have then put you on hiv meds for month. That's what they do to hospital worker that have been exposed to hiv. I would recommend you go on PrEP if your neg and are in a high risk group. Fyi time is of the essence
  • 2 months ago

    RE: HIV risk to partner...

    "If this stranger had hiv and had passed the virus onto me how long would it take to totally infect me? "

    Are you asking how long you would be infectious to others after this encounter? One cannot say although it is HIGHLY unlikely you would have a high viral load in just 21 hours.

    You need worry that this encounter left YOU infected if this indeed was a high risk encounter. Said boyfriend really wasn't at risk from his oral sex with you.

    Gail
      • 2 months ago
        Well I had protected sex with a stranger but the first time when he was pulling out the condom slipped off inside me. I pulled it out right away it wasn't far in at all and I don't think any ejaculation escaped but I can't be 100% sure. I also performed oral on him and there was no ejaculation but there could have been pre cum present. What are my risks for this exposure if he was HIV positive? I got tested at 31 days(4 weeks) after that night and am just waiting for my results. I was going to wait 6 weeks but I'm too stressed out to wait.
      • 2 months ago
        Oral sex carries an EXTREMELY low risk of HIV transmission. Think along the lines of an estimated risk of .5 to 1 per 10,000 exposures with a source KNOWN to carry the virus...and with the act carried to completion.

        Risk from the slipped condom depends on two things 1. the status of the partner (of course) and 2. whether ejaculate escaped. Still, the odds are ALWAYS incredibly in your favor that this event did not leave you infected.

        Gail
      • 2 months ago
        Thank you for the help. If I'm negative for my four weeks test should I bother testing again? If so should test at 6 or 8 weeks?
      • 2 months ago
        In the "old" days, 3 month testing (and even 6 month tests) were recommended. However, current tests are extremely accurate at the 4 week mark.

        Gail
      • 2 months ago
        Hi there, I got my results back but now I'm very confused and upset. When I asked to have an hiv test done I asked my doctor if it would be the fourth generation and she said yes. I got my results back yesterday and they were non reactive. However I called the lab and they said they only do the antibody tests and not the fourth generation antigen ones. So now I'm upset because my doctor lied to me and gave me the wrong test. It's pretty much useless to take just the antibody test at 1 month isn't it? I thought the window period for that test is 3 months at least. If you have any insight into this it would be very much appreciated. Now I feel worried and anxious all over again.
      • 2 months ago
        It is not useless to take the antibody test at one month. At LEAST 95 percent of newly infected individuals would have enough antibodies by 25 days past transmission to show a "reactive" (positive) test result.

        In other words your antibody test 31 days after a "potential" exposure (which, quite honestly, does not sound like an exposure at all since it involves condom use except you cannot be sure if a bit of the ejaculate may have dribbled out and oral sex without ejaculation) is not useless; indeed, it shows your HIV negative status.

        I hope this makes sense and brings you some comfort.

        Gail
      • 2 months ago
        Thank you for the reply, your response did calm me and help me realx! It's good to know my risks were very low. I'm feeling better about it now and better about my results. And sorry my incident happened on August 31 so technially I got tested at 30 days after that night not 31. Would that one day matter much for test reliability? And one more thing I was wondering about concerning HIV window periods. Since HIV can take a few days to actually infect a person fully, wouldn't you need to count at least a few days after your exposure to get the correct "window period" for testing? I'm just worried that if I did contract it a few days after my exposure like on August 2 then I would need to count down from then. Which would have meant I tested at 28 days not 31. Sorry if I'm being confusing it's just something I've been pondering. What do you think? Oh and also the second time I gave him oral it was about 15 to 20 minutes after we had protected sex and he ejaculated. So there was probably some sperm on his penis after we had sex from the condom he had on? Not sure if that would be the same as if he would have actually ejaculated into my mouth. I did also do some deep throating when I gave him oral, I don't know if that makes it more of a risk. Thank you so much for answering all my questions so far. I promise this is the last one!