• over 3 years ago

    Nursing home caused the death of my mother after only 4 days

    My mother had type 2 diabetes controlled by medication for about 30 years. I was caring for her for about 20 years but it was getting difficult and I am older now. I admitted her to a nursing home on June 14 and we, her family, called 911 on June 19 because she was not herself, she was sleeping too much, not responsive. My mother always took her meds and checked her blood sugar. If it seemed high, around 180, then she made sure to make extreme adjustments. We have since found out that her BG went up to 428 and they are claiming that she refused to take her meds. I believe she wasn't alert enough to make that decision because she was going into diabetic coma. She passed away on June 19 from STEMI ecg, internal bleeding. What is your opinion? I don't recall her BG getting above 200 at home (her machine records). I picked up her medical records and there is a note where it was "missed" to give her insulin when it was first noticed that here BG was in the 400s. I was trying to get better care for my mother by putting her in the nursing home and now the guilt that I will have to live with for the rest of my life will be unbearable. I counted on them to be the professionals, to do right by her, and to give her the right care that I did not think I could give her anymore at home.

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  • over 3 years ago

    RE: Nursing home caused the death of my mother after only 4 days

    Very sorry for your loss. The very same thing happened to me, only, it was my aunt, instead. The first (and last mistake) I made when I left my aunt at the hospital was, she was left in the caring hands of one of the finest hospitals in the country. They would take excellent care of her...
    She had T2 Diabetes, too. She was diagnosed nearly 20 years, prior, and was never admitted to a hospital her entire life. What could go wrong?..

    ...She died inside a week.

    Since then I've learned many things...about hospitals...and, about T2 Diabetes. Here's some examples...
    1. Almost impossible to sleep on a hospital bed in I.C.U.; its ridiculous!
    2. Lights remain on almost 24 hours in I.C.U.
    3. Noise level, even at night, is maddening.
    4. Hospitals have no freakin clue what T2 D's eat
    5. Meds and antibiotics can cause blood sugar to soar.
    6. Fear, anxiety and sleep deprivation does cause blood sugar to soar.
    7. Hospitals "deliberately" err high on blood sugar than risk going too low.
    8. When a patient suddenly becomes immobilized for long periods of time that can disrupt normal blood sugar control.

    In other words, whatever worked for your mom, 20 years prior, flew out the window when she went into that nursing home. For example, my wife's grandmother (101) gained 20 lbs the first two months after admission (she weighed 100 lbs going in). I firmly believe, unless you've had T2 Diabetes for many years, yourself, you can't possibly grasp the impact your mother's move to a nursing home had on her body. It can be psychologically, emotionally and physically devastating. In addition, your mother had one of the most complex pre-existing conditions to "manage" when she was admitted. And, of course, everything they "say" about nursing homes, unfortunately, is true. Businesses that are highly regulated tend to be most concerned with "compliance" (to regulation). Keeping customers alive, unfortunately, is not part of the regs. Thus, unless you've had T2 Diabetes for many years, yourself, you can't possibly grasp the impact her move to a nursing home had on her body.

    I said the exact same things about that hospital my aunt died in. Over the years, I've learned tons, more, about this disease and I've come to realize. I was wrong. I was talking out of my backside.

    The lesson I learned, since, is...
    Prevent T2 Diabetes (or reverse it), cause if you elect to "treat" Type 2 Diabetes, you'll eventually wind up in the care of...places that are not great for your health. Embrace this invaluable lesson learned and don't let what happened to your mom (and my aunt) ever be forgotten.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Nursing home caused the death of my mother after only 4 days

    OMG so many situations of this type pop up. My granny had diabetes and when I went to college, I decided to give her to a nursing home. I was so naive to think that they will take care of her properly. Besides that, I thought that would be great older people whom she will communicate and spend time with would surround her daily. I don’t know what the doctors in the nursing home did to her, but she passed away in less than one month. I checked her medical records to see if she drunk her pills on time. Also, I spoke with all the doctors, nurses’, cleaners and other patients to see what is going on there. All of them affirmed that my granny died of her death and nobody was implied in it. I don’t believe any words and I’m looking now for more cases like mine which happened in the same hospital. Eventually, I will pass the information to https://mikesnursingessay.com/, so they will come up with a short and comprehensive article. I can’t write it by myself because I’m not a writer. I really hope the truth will win.
      • 1 month ago
        The average person never stops to consider the cognitive effects of advancing diabetes have on elderly patients, especially, those with multiple comorbidities.

        In a nutshell, high blood sugar degrades brain function & the risk of dementia "doubles" for patients with diabetes vs non-diabetics.


        So, when an parent with diabetes becomes too much to care for due to advancing impairment & cognitive decline what chance does a hospital, much less, a nursing home have in providing "better care" for your mom and dad? Let's really, really, think about this for a moment, shall we?...


        1. What do you think an entirely strange and foreign diet would have on a person experiencing poor blood sugar control in the first place?
        2. What would extremely high levels of stress and anxiety from being removed from the comfy confines of a home they probably resided for the last several decades have on their diabetes?
        3. Plus, what do you think it would be like being attended to by a complete stranger(s) that possess a miniscule, fraction of the knowledge and experience you have of your mom or dad...their tendencies, likes and dislikes, responses to meds, etc...?

        Bottomline: The experience of being placed in a nursing home, for the first time, is nothing less than traumatizing, especially, for the elderly patient with diabetes.

        Can you possibly imagine what effect this would have on their blood sugar? Don't you think your parent may be a little "out of sorts" and confused by such an experience?


        So, sure. You can point fingers at the nursing home. You may have a legitimate claim that the nursing home killed your loved one.

        But, knowing what I know about diabetes and how it can degrade every systemic organ function in the body if improperly controlled (especially, the brain), I know, better. There isn't a facility in the world that can sustain GOOD care for elderly patients with end stage diabetes. They don't exist.

        And, any medical administrator who tells you different and sells you roses for mom and dad in their glory years is only telling you what you want to hear.

        The "challenges" that people face once admitted into a nursing home are overwhelming and disorienting to say the very least.