• 1 month ago

    ADHD 5 year old son

    Hello, my 5 year old turns 6 this may and has been in kindergarten since august. From the very 1st day of school (and I do mean first day) his teacher has said he has behavior issues and should be put on ADHD medication. I have tried very hard to work with her and his doctor about his behavior issues. The doctor finally decided to send the teachers the Vanderbilt screening. Which they sent back and the Dr said he definitely has ADHD. I have tried everything I can think of at home to help with the problems. I don't know what else to try. We have an appointment next month to discuss this and what treatment we can try. I really do not want to put him on medication. Any advice on what we can do/try will be appreciated.

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  • RE: ADHD 5 year old son

    Hi Shayla,

    I definitely appreciate your concern. I used to feel the same way about "medicating children"—or even adults—for ADHD.

    Twenty years later, having written two books based on the science and met thousands of adults with ADHD and quite a few children and teens with ADHD, I have a different view.

    If both your son's teacher and physician confirm that ADHD is likely, that is a serious consideration for you.

    I encourage you to keep an open mind about medication. ADHD is a neurobiological condition; it's not just a "behavior" issue.

    Left untreated, ADHD can adversely affect every aspect of life, from childhood on.

    I am assuming that you are raising your child in a healthy environment and with healthy routines (for example: around diet, exercise, sunshine, organized home life, with a minimum of chaos or conflict).

    Beyond that, if ADHD symptoms are severe enough, they can sabotage all your best efforts at parenting and your child's best efforts at paying attention, focusing, and so on. If your child needed vision correction in the form of eyeglasses, I bet you wouldn't hesitate to get eyeglasses for him. The brain is much more complex than the eyes -- and in fact the brain controls much of our ability to see and interpret what we are seeing.

    I'm wondering why, if both teacher and physician confirm ADHD, that this hasn't been noticed at home. Sometimes ADHD in a partner limits the ability to see ADHD behavior in a child; it's seen as "normal" -- just like that parent's childhood behavior.

    I encourage you to read up on ADHD treatment here at WebMD and at other reliable sites such as http://CHADD.org . The more educated you are, the less irrational fear you will have about the potential of medicaion AND the better advocate you will be for your child.

    good luck!

    Gina Pera