• over 1 year ago

    please help me

    this gonna be a really hard and long story but im gonna try my best and fight my feelings because i know that this is they only key to live finally LIVE A LIFE.

    back few months i came to a point in my life where i never felt so bad. i play a lot of competitive games. i was unable to concentrate, i felt like i cant achieve anything even in games not just in my life. i started to burnout on everything and i was angry on a lot of people because of the emotional rollercoaster. slowly i started to hate myself (never liked myself and how i look). i could even look into the mirror. i was really slim,never ate and slept enough and even if i ate enough it was only trash food.
    i was in love with a girl who would never think about me as i think about her..then she said i look really ***. but i knew that ( deep in my mind ) she told that only cause she wanted to help me but still... it felt very bad.
    I had out from my job for weeks. i was home alone with my cat for a long time. i drank something put some chillout music and was looking for mood swings, depression. then i found bipolard disorder. i tought it could be my problem. few days later i was looking further and then i found adhd.
    The first thing i did was reading all the Symptoms slowly. everytime i read one of them, tousands of memories come to surface.

    i dont know how to get through this thats why im here now. i know that if i would go to a doctor or psychologist ( sorry i dont know the right word in english) as soon as i would collect my toughts i would just freaking cry i couldnt even talk 2 sentences. and that would take tousands of hours and even more money.

    i guess it all started in my childhood. i was often bullied because i was already very tall, everytime someone looked at me my head went red and everyone laughed. i never could pay attention in the school, so my mom spend a lot of time with me at home to learn, sometimes even more time that i spent in the school. and that was only one subject... my mom had a job so she didnt really had time just like my father who worked far away from us and he could really be with us. and when he was he was just angry, was screaming with my mom and me and my sister just listened every single weeked what happened.
    i dont blame them , since i respect them and i try to help them. but how should i help others when i cant even help myself. when i dont even understand whats wrong with me.

    i read a lot about adhd threatment.

    first of all , i stopped smoking. this was way easier than i tought and this gave me such a motivation to go further.
    then i started to really care about what i eat/drink. i started to follow nutritionsts on social platforms. i even started to workout a little bit.
    stopped eating candy and trashfood. ( sometimes i eat trashfood but only when i know i ate enough normal food )
    i moved home to my parents and i slowly tried to tell them that i really sorry about my past, about everything i did wrong. i even told them that i love them even tho i didnt said it in YEARS.

    the only thing i cant control is anxiety and stress. even if i have plan for a day, im alone and i feel like im lost in this world, alone and depressed again. and i know that i have to sleep but i cant bacause i start to sweat. just like in public when i start to speak or the attention is on me.

    i knew that a girlfriend could help much. so i met one girl and i tried to be open minded with her. i show her only my positive site and my motivated self because i knew that i need one girl who is good and knows what is good for me. i could do anything for her. really. today , just before i wanted to talk about my adhd to her, she said we are better stay friends. probably cause i couldnt give her enough free space and time. i accept that... i told her that i hope we could meet sometime and just talk about what i really wanted to talk about. even if i know that she cant be mine anymore :(

    and im here now.
    i was never so confused


  • over 1 year ago

    RE: please help me

    I don't know what to say but I know what can help you.
    There's an app I found that called #self-care
    It help me a-lot with all of this *** maybe it can help you.
  • over 1 year ago

    RE: please help me

    You can get medication for ADHD through your regular doctor which makes it easier than the pressure of a psychologist office.
    I speak from experience that letting go of past childhood memories and focus on building future you is key to success. Read inspirational quotes on pinterest, Twitter or Instagram, it makes you feel better. Definitely avoid dating until you have bettered your situation. You never hide parts of yourself for anyone so build up your best self and it will get better
  • 11 months ago

    RE: please help me

    To: Please help me

    I keep telling everyone this and I'll continue for as long as it takes. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Just because you're not like our world filled with baaing sheep, honey, doesn't mean there's anything wrong about you. You're BETTER. YOU STAND OUT!!!
    Also, go to additudemag.com!! You will learn all you'd ever need to know about adhd, or they'll direct you where you can. There are self tests for adhd, and tests for all the myriad, untold number of conditions that go along with it.
    And I CANNOT stress this enough, darlin. GET SOME THERAPY. If your insurance won't pay for it, go to your local health department or lifeskills office, and THEY WILL FIND YOU FREE HELP. If you don't live here in America, look into whatever resources your government provides. It will probably surprise you how many there are.
    And keep in mind, NOT ALL THERAPISTS ARE CREATED EQUAL. ADHD TRULY REQUIRES a two-pronged approach, including therapy and medication, almost ALWAYS. And online, you will find millions of forums like this one and talk communities where you can find support and comraderie, and not feel so alone.
    On therapy, listen honey, they are trained, as are doctors, to exercise patience with you. You don't hafta get it all out at once, and they will help you to get it all out eventually. And that, that will help you more than anything in the world.
    And lastly, like another poster mentioned. DO NOT HIDE YOUR TRUE SELF TO DATE SOMEONE. Relationships, ALL of them, are based, ALWAYS, BOTTOM LINE, on TRUST, HONESTY, AND BEING WHO YOU REALLY ARE. You stay true to yourself and eventually, you will meet someone who values you for who and what you really are, flaws and faults and all. Sounds cliche, but it's true, trust me. It took me 38 years and a mountain of damage and abuse from the way wrong partners, but I've finally landed the right one, and nearly three years in, we're still hanging on.
    Good luck and I sincerely hope things improve for you greatly.
  • RE: please help me

    I have felt similar motions.... I was diagnosed when I was young and I empathize greatly, I am married now with a child coming soon. You are a very unique individual. I personally have turned my hopes to God although strong growth and mental maturity happened while going to church, if its a word of advice... find a woman you can be completely open with about your pains, shortcommings and failures, and if she loves you still regardless of how bad you seem, shes not right or ready to share life with. Life is about the good the bad and the ugly. What you have poured out is your heart onto this forum website in hopes that someone would hear your heart.
    Bud.... I hear you and I wish I could say that there is no pain while living life with ADHD.
    There has been innumerable times Ive been shouted at, yelled at, put down, mocked and insulted. And many employers later, still struggling much in the same ways you have.... know that YOU are the only YOU, and that YOU are Loved, you are not alone (I dont just say this as a platitude but point you to Christ Jesus, who loves you always) seek him if you want rest, he will take away many pains and sorrows and give you peace.