• 9 months ago

    ADHD & Inconsistency

    I am struggling with ADHD. Every day I seem to arrive at work VERY late, regardless of my attempts to arrive early/on time. My new manager (recent reporting structure change) doesn't seem to understand ADHD at all - nor does she really care. I am involved in a certificate program that runs one day per week for 6 wks. This program starts 1 HR prior to my scheduled work start time. My boss is also facilitating/leading this program. Due to some combination of fear of embarrassment, extreme interest in the program, and good luck, I've managed to arrive at the program on time so far every week. My boss sees this as proof that I am able to control my arrival time. As we all know (hopefully) inconsistency and time blindness are the hallmarks of ADHD. Although I am aware of the symptoms, I seem powerless to control them. Every morning I wake up and think to myself, "today I'm going to get to work on time" and yet I continue to fail over and over again. What can I do to make my boss understand? What strategies have been helpful for others when it comes to morning routines? Can anyone direct me to articles or resources that can help to educate my boss about why this keeps happening?

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  • RE: ADHD & Inconsistency

    Hi there,

    That sounds very stressful! But it needn't be that way.

    You mention that you are "struggling with ADHD," but you don't mention the steps you've taken to manage your ADHD symptoms.

    You say you are "powerless" to control your symptoms. But I'm curious as to why do you say that? What have you tried thus far?

    You write: Every morning I wake up and think to myself, "today I'm going to get to work on time" and yet I continue to fail over and over again.

    Here's the key: Waiting until you awaken to attempt to meet that goal is a setup for failure. It is important to take steps the night before to make sure you get up and to work on time.

    That might mean setting multiple alarms.

    That might mean putting out your clothes, your phone, keys, etc. in one spot the night before, so you don't have to go on a time-consuming hunt each morning.

    In other words, it's important to ACTIVELY PLAN to achieve your goal of getting to work on time. No one, ADHD or not, can just have good intentions about meeting a goal. We all need to plan.

    Yes, I know. Trouble with planning is an ADHD challenge, too. But nonetheless, it is your challenge to address. It's not a question of your boss "understanding." It is a question of you "owning" your ADHD.

    Your boss has a job to do, and you have a job to do. Yours involves getting to work on time. That's the bottom line.

    For many people with ADHD, medication will be the single most powerful tool in their tool box. It can help them become more aware of the passage of time and to be more successful with planning and follow-through.

    Even with medication, most people with ADHD will need to faithfully use a planner/calendar, set with as many alarms as needed to get the job done.

    I encourage you to learn more about treatment strategies. They can truly make your life easier and happier.

    good luck!

    Gina Pera