• 1 month ago

    Dynamic BF

    I have a Dynamic BF who change his mind within a second without thinking properly. Even If after having sex with him he just changes his mind and act like he does not know me anymore. He is very egoistic if anything i say he does not like he became more hoggish. He just like to think about him first. He does not even care what i am thinking or i want to say to him or want from him. And looks like he doesn't have courage to call me or text me either. he has a lot issue. he thinks he is the most intelligent person LOL. he has less appreciation for me. He is also big-time flirter. But all above he is a huge dynamic person. Is it safe to be with a dynamic person for the rest of the life who change mind without thinking?

Responses

  • 1 month ago

    RE: Dynamic BF

    Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who disregards your feelings and opinions, who can't be bothered calling you and who considers you to be an inferior being? I certainly wouldn't.

    He has no respect for you. A relationship without mutual respect is one that will not survive.

    If I were you, I'd break up with him and raise my standards.
      • 1 month ago
        He never considered me as an inferior being.
        Last time he said it is just me. He is not doing it with others.
        He has anger, he get mad quickly and he can not let it go easily. That is his big issue. And if I talk with my cool and cute friends he never like it. He did not text me back either called me. That's made me upset.
        But I love him. Once I will be free from my everything will see if he wants me I will be with him.
      • You asked whether it is safe to be with him for the rest of your life. The fact that you are asking this means that you at least suspect that it might not be safe. In what ways do you think it might be unsafe?

        FCL suggested that the relationship seems like a problem (perhaps unsafe for you?). From my reading of your post I agree that he seems to disregard your feelings, does not seem to appreciate you, and treats you disrespectfully. Even if your love or passion for him is overpowering now, most people suffer emotionally when they stay in a relationship where they feel disrespected and are treated poorly.

        But, what do you think? Again, how do you think the relationship might be unsafe for you? Another way to think about this is to consider what you might recommend to a friend who was in a relationship similar to yours.
      • 1 month ago
        What is this "everything" that you want to be free from?

        By the way, trying to put all the blame on you for his behaviour (it's just you, nobody ese has a problem with me, etc.) is called gaslighting.
      • 1 month ago
        Yes it just me because he and me had sex.
        So me and him is more closer. Not others
  • 29 days ago

    RE: Dynamic BF

    Hi from what you saying I don't think he is dynamic, more like a self indulgent prig.

    When it comes to having sex its for both of you and not just him, if he is doing that then he is just treating you like a F**k Machine, so for that he is not worth knowing.

    So after sex does he cuddle? bet its no, that after sex cuddle is great makes us fill warm and warm to each other, we still do that even after 48 years of marriage.

    Do move on and find a real lover and some one who wants you to be with him, that way your feel his warmth, in lots of ways.

    NOWHARD
      • 29 days ago
        not sure he sees me as his sex machine, but after sex not cuddle happened. he just dressed him up. but i saw his happy face.
      • 28 days ago
        Of course he was smiling he just had what he wanted with no thought of you and your needs, that's why your just his F**k machine ( this is a term used by Dr Betty Dodson about men who just use a women for sex) can you see why, just how much foreplay does he give you? or is it just get to bed and wham bang?

        NOWHARD
      • 28 days ago
        So you're happy he's just using you for sex?
      • 28 days ago
        i want his love as well beside have me for sex. probably not possible for him to love me
      • 28 days ago
        Somehow fcl she is blinded by his charisma cant be anything else, sad to say.

        NOWHARD
      • So if it is not possible for him to love you, the question you need to ask yourself is whether you are willing to accept him using you for sex. It's important for you to be honest with yourself that, based on what you are saying, he is not expressing love for you when the two of you have sex. If the answer is that it is not okay, but it is hard to say no because of how you feel toward him, then you will likely feel awful about this as time goes by, if you don't already feel awful about it.

        For many people, when they are in this situation, they help themselves by getting support outside that relationship to help them cut ties. It can be emotionally painful, but it generally helps people feel better on the other side -- and allows them to then move on and find someone who loves them and treats them right.