• 4 months ago

    Marriage

    Married going on 33 years. I fee we have grown apart. There is less talking and I try to avoid him as much possible because we don't agree most of the time. He is always in a bad mood. When we do talk he starts the sentence with the word "What" like I'm bugging him. I question our marriage often, feel like we are just room mates. We still share a room but I feel like we are just going through the motions. I feel like he doesn't leave me because I help pay bills. This is causing me to have anxiety and tired of being unhappy all the time. I want to leave but I have a disabled daughter living at home which she would be leaving with me because she has told me she don't like the way her dad treats her. Sometimes I do think is best to leave, maybe I be happier alone with my daughter and don't have to walk on egg shells. He went out of the country for work a few days for work and I was at peace. He returns today and I have anxiety and don't want to go home after work.

Responses

  • 3 months ago

    RE: Marriage

    marriage meaning shearing and caring each other. if husband do not have job wife can help her husband by financially. and when wife do not have job husband can help her to find a job or set up a job for her so that she can contribute for family. this is called relationship. but if you do not have good communication between each other and if you are unable to make any conversation with him then it is hard to get peace from him. Finical problem can overcome one day but if you both do not feel each other and you get disrespected from him or from his family and feel ignore for some point and if he kind of control you too much (of course many man love to control their woman directly or indirectly) and no sexual attraction (cannot make you satisfy or sextually kind of not strong) then it is real hard to stay with a man like it. Even though some woman chooses to stay. But from my point of view better leave or if you choose to stay you probably face this all the time. Because this situation won’t change easily. And your daughter won’t feel comfortable to stay with him either. This is another point. But it is good for you that you have a daughter who will be with you so that you never feel alone. And if you think it is giving you a peace to stay away from you because of his work purpose, make him to have work out of state then you will feel Peace and relax. But you won’t end up with any other guy and fall into other person since you are kind of do not like your husband. But you like another person you better tell him and get release from him. It is very simple.

    Good Luck

    S......
  • 3 months ago

    RE: Marriage

    Hi I think after 33 years of something that's now going nowhere, time to do what your heart is telling you to do and move on for your health's sake, your have your daughter with you so you wont be alone, I would find out the best place to be for you, and as far away as possible with a job that's you.

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  • RE: Marriage

    If you have not already tried talking directly with him about how you are feeling, you might want to try to do that. If he also admits to feeling the distance, the question becomes whether you want to try to work on improving things. (Or maybe you know that you don't want to work on the relationship, in which case there is no reason to talk with him about that possibility.) Couples do sometimes turn things around from taking each other for granted, or being tired of living with emotional distance, when they face the possibility of the marriage ending. Then, if that's not an option and you decide to leave, it would be important to first think clearly about how you would make your life work pragmatically (e.g. taking care of your daughter, paying bills).
  • 3 months ago

    RE: Marriage

    Perhaps ask if he would sit with you for 15 minutes and talk, especially about how you used to feel for each other, and how the feelings are now. Question why they changed, and what he thinks can be done to correct them. If he won't speak about it, definitely see a counselor, at least for yourself. Try to get him to go, too, but at least you should go. Ask the counselor for advice on how to approach him with your feelings. Marriage takes work, and it sounds like you two have neglected it for a while, so you have some catching up to do. Is he clinically depressed? Meds can work wonders for that. Do TRY before you break up; you may be surprised. Best to you.