• over 2 years ago

    Sister problem

    Hi - I posted before about my sister - need some advice - she has said hurtful things to me and I always call her on her birthday - I really didn't want to send a mushy card or gift but sent her some candy with a funny card. I probably will call her tomorrow - don't know what to say - wish the psychologist would answer me again - anyway - I don't think it is wise to tell her off - but if she says ugly things then I will - but I really don't like her and I cant even think of good memories with her - it is sad but it is true.

    Anyway, guess I am going to call her tomorrow - hoping she wont answer her phone like she normally does because she is so busy but if that happens I will give her a birthday greeting and not call her back but who knows if she will answer it or not.

    Anyway, guess I will be my normal nice person I am to her but not going to overdo it - anyway - just venting here. I don't expect anyone here is going to tell me what to do but I guess we have to forgive which I haven't yet but I think the best thing is what the counselor told me a while ago just talk and see what she says - the next time she says ugly things like she did a few months ago "that my parents never enjoyed themselves when they came here and were anxious to go home" I will nail her then but if she is nice I wont - anyway, thank you for listening.

Responses

  • over 2 years ago

    RE: Sister problem

    If talking to her stresses you out and if you feel that a phone call might degenerate, then why call her? You that you do this every year but, you know what? You're allowed to change. You're allowed to do things differently. If you don't want to call her then don't call. I'm sure you can think of hundreds of other ways to wish her a happy birthday.
  • over 2 years ago

    RE: Sister problem

    Hi As your not really liken to be calling her as you don't know what to say and don't want to be put down by her use this link below.

    http://www.123greetings.com

    They can eve tell you if she has opened it. OK

    NOWHARD
  • 11 months ago

    RE: Sister problem

    you said you just wanted to share and you do not expect to get anyone word about it. This is sort of interesting to me. i do not have any sister, but i feel like if i have a sister i can share all my issue with her and can get some discussion to resolve my issue. i always thing having a sister meaning having a best friend. but in your case, it is different situation. You and your sister having a lot communication gape. Is she your younger sister or elder sister? Eventually, younger sisters try to make less communication with the elder one. But most of the time elder sister always like to keep in touch with younger one or pay attention on them. If she is your younger sister it can be common situation. And if she ignores you then she may ignore her parents too. You may all can sit with her and try to understand the problem she is having with you all. Other matter can be age. She may or may not mature enough to understand the relationship with her own family. She will keep in touch with you all as like others. It is just a matter of time.

    From Sabrina
  • 5 months ago

    RE: Sister problem

    Just say Happy Birthday and be done with it. Any other discourse that takes place is directly a result to what you respond to. Take accountability for the interactions you partake in. Don't want it to go to a negative place? Don't let it...and if it it does, politely excuse yourself from the conversation. Don't be petty, come on. Life is short.