• 3 months ago

    is the love meaning pain...

    If you like a person for a long time, and sometimes you get together with him and then you realized that you both have family behind you. but you get close with a person and finally you may fall in to that person meaning love that person and even though you know there is a lot risk to meet and talk. base on some incidents he may think it need to be stop since he and she both has own family. but you feel like may not forget him in your life and you feel like you will be more happy if talk with him again. then you realized that you really love this man. how painful is that your most likable person telling you no talk or stop talking with you....

    why my life became like that. how do i get rid of all pain from me. i never forget this man who always try to support me and tried to make me feel better even though he knows here is a lot of risk involve.
    why do i love this man.... why love is so painful.

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    Nur Nahar

Responses

  • 3 months ago

    RE: is the love meaning pain...

    So you're both married ... Are you the woman who fell in love with an older guy at work?

    The only thing that heals the pain is time and distance. If you still see each other then you will never get over him. If you work with him, you need to change your job. If you live near him, you should avoid him like the plague.

    Spend your energy on your marriage, not on some unattainable dream.
      • 3 months ago
        am not sure which woman are you talking about. But we both married and I am not working with him, he is not living close by me either.

        It will go away if I get chance to see him again and talk with him again. And my marriage … Sonner or later I will go for divorce with him for sure. Many issues with him which I do not want to share. I cannot continue to stay with him. If I get chance now I will get out of him now. but he does not want. So will see what will happen.

        And once I will be separate and the person I like Mr old won’t talk. I will lead my life differently. No more fall in love with any guy. I will make every guy love me but I decided to pay with everyone. I think it will be crazy idea, but I will definitely follow that.

        Nur
      • 3 months ago
        I am not sure which woman are you talking about. But we both married and I am not working with him, he is not living close by me either.

        It will go away if I get chance to see him again and talk with him again. And my marriage … Sonner or later I will go for divorce with him for sure. Many issues with him which I do not want to share. I cannot continue to stay with him. If I get chance now I will get out of him now. but he does not want. So will see what will happen.

        And once I will be separate and the person I like Mr old won’t talk. I will lead my life differently. No more fall in love with any guy. I will make every guy love me but I decided to play with everyone. I think it will be crazy idea, but I will definitely follow that.

        Nur
      • It sounds like you need time for your heart to heal -- and this will require time away from the man you fell in love with. No need to decide your future relationships now. It also sounds like you need to attend to making your life better, apart from starting new relationships. People generally do better when they do what they need to in resolving marital issues (fixing them or divorcing) and then move on from there. Part of that will likely be taking steps toward your goal with your relationship, which for you sounds like divorce. For some people this means becoming more financially independent or finding emotional strength within themselves to feel greater inner happiness and to weather changes that will happen in their lives. It generally works better during emotionally stormy times to allow yourself to feel your emotions, but to make decisions that are guided by your more logical thinking.
  • RE: is the love meaning pain...

    Tough tough... we've all been there, heartbreak is something we all want to avoid but at the same time isn't in out control. If you guys were both involved with other people from the beginning it was dysfunctional and illogical from the start as there wasn't any way to come out of that situation with nobody getting hurt.

    The fact that your current relationship isn't working out doesn't necessarily reflect his, and although it hurts to read this the fact that he chose to stop speaking with you proves that he actually prioritizes his other partner as oppose to you. Let that sink in. Now accept that you cant have control over anyone's life but your own and deal with your current problems now instead of finding an escape which will undoubtedly fail. Leave the person you're with right now, find the things you used to love and find pleasure in and retake those activities, basically invest some time in yourself and get in a better mental state. once you do this you might realize that you are fine without him and if not you will be at a perfect point to start a clean slate with him or someone else i think you having another relationship and all these other things going on probably made him dislike you, if you get everything together and come across as independent of him he might rethink he's option. Good luck.

    INMY20s
      • 3 months ago
        Some very sound advice there. I agree - OP, spend time being you, learning about you, learning to love you ... It's time well spent.