• 13 days ago

    Age differences - Can it work out?

    Age differences - Can it work out?

    I’ve joined some of the reputable dating sites like A Foreign Affair, Intl.Cupid and etc... I’ve noticed when browsing through profiles that most women are young. I’m 56 years old and most of the ladies are 15-20 years younger than me. But that did not stop me from getting in contact with the ladies.

    Some never responded and some did. One woman stood out the most. I’ve corresponded with her through AFA. She’s 33 years old and from Bangkok, Thailand. Despite our age and cultural differences, I am able to relate with her and enjoy my time writing to her. It’s been months since we started exchanging letters and we’ve started to establish a relationship.

    At first, I worried that the 2-decade age gap would make it impossible for things to progress. A lot of people gave me the cold shoulder because of our age-gap and my kids aren’t really happy about it at first. But because they can tell that I’m happy, they’ve accepted my relationship with her.

    Now, I’m planning a trip to Bangkok to meet and get to know her more. Hopefully, if things go well, I’d be able to bring her along with me to meet my children.

    I still have uncertainties from time to time due to our age differences, but I believe that things can really work out between us. What do you think?

Responses

  • RE: Age differences - Can it work out?

    There is no external reason that a relationship can't work out between two people if they really connect. You have a few factors that might make your relationship difficult. The age difference is one. It can be an issue because you are at different stages of life. In addition, you are from different cultures. Also, it is impossible to know how the two of you will connect when you are face-to-face, which can be very different. Finally, if the relationship feels right when you meet, you still have the issue of living very far from each other. Long distance relationships are difficult to nurture. And if one of you moves so you can be closer to each other, you risk moving the relationship too quickly.

    I hesitate mentioning this, but you want to be aware that people are sometimes caught up in scams through online dating. The person they connect with is not who they seem. This can be done for many reasons. It may not be the case for you, but you should be aware that this happens.

    All of this said, there is, of course, the possibility that you can navigate all of the difficulties you face and end up with a happy relationship. But many people find it helpful to move through such complicated situations cautiously and take it slow.

    I wish you well with this. Please know we are here for you as you navigate this situation.
  • 12 days ago

    RE: Age differences - Can it work out?

    Love does not discriminate when it comes to age my friend. For instance, my daughter is married to a man who is 30 yrs. her senior. I'm not all that excited about it myself but if she's happy that's all that matters. He treats her very well. He likes me and I like him so there's no conflict there. Just be very careful about the online affair. Have you had contacted each other through skype or any kind of video communication? If not I suggest you do before you make a trip to Bangkok to meet this young lady. You might be glad you did.
  • 2 days ago

    RE: Age differences - Can it work out?

    They with u for yo money. It aint ever gonna work out