• 1 month ago

    I'm losing her...

    Several months ago I started dating a girl I knew back in high school. She ended up being a customer of mine at the store I used to work for. I had a crush on her in high school, and I have one for her today. We started hanging out and seeing each other and things seemed pretty good. Our situation was a little bit different from normal. When we started hanging out she was dating a guy who she really didn't want to be with, but because of her living arrangement she was stuck with him. He ended up breaking up with her and her and I got together. About a month ago she got on a new birth control and things were fine for the first couple of weeks. However about 2 weeks ago she started acting...off. She was distant, and seemed depressed. Last week things came to a head and we discussed breaking up. I love her, and she loves me. I don't want to lose her, and I'm sure that her recent mood fluctuations are because she hasn't been on birth control in years, and this new one is one of the rings, and it's pummeling her with hormones. But I don't know what to do. She wants space, so I give her space. We haven't talked in almost a week. I try to check in every other day with a text and I get no response. I don't want to lose her, but I also can't get a hold of her. Do I wait it out? What do I do? I love this girl, I really do. We've talked about our future, and having kids, and I don't want to lose her, but I don't know what else to do. I was hoping that the mood swings would be temporary but its been over a week and things have only seemed to get worse. I'm scared, and I'm lonely, and I worried about her.

Responses

  • 1 month ago

    RE: I'm losing her...

    Yes let her go. Move on.. dont ruin her marriage. You will be okay.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: I'm losing her...

    If it is other person. You can have that still.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: I'm losing her...

    You not lonely
    You know why you have wife and 3 kids. Stay away from her. Let her go. Dont destroy her family. This is not love. Stop everything!
  • 1 month ago

    RE: I'm losing her...

    Pay attention your own family. Your wife and 3 kids..

    she has husband and 4 grown up kids. Let it go. Dont ruin her life.
      • 1 month ago
        You two had sex. And fun over. Let it go for you own good. DT you get it. What a shame!
      • 1 month ago
        Where are you people reading that she's married, or I'm married, or that she has kids?
      • 1 month ago
        Just stop .you are not 20 . You ar 53 years old man. Please stop it.
  • 1 month ago

    RE: I'm losing her...

    Duane please stop it. Dont ruin her life. You better discuss with your wife about it. Okay.
      • 1 month ago
        ... having wife and and kids never make your lonely. And you have many women just like her why you forgot about Tr39. And let her go. This is the best for you two. She is a Muslim woman. You never marry her. And you never Lose your wife. It was last. She made mistakes she will understand one. Sex is not everything. Sex is not love. She has wonderful family. Dont ruin her marriage and family. You just wanted her for sex. It is over. Let it go. Good luck
      • 1 month ago
        If she smart woman. She should have understood you. I feel sorry for Z. That falling in Man like you.

        Why are you like that? How many women do you need for fun???? Are you mentally okay. You came from women feast I can remember that part.
  • RE: I'm losing her...

    Her struggles with mood swings can last for some time, so one week is definitely enough time to decide how to proceed. Also, it's not clear to me what the terms were when you broke up. Was it just about giving her space? Was there any suggestion of possibly reconnecting? And was any time frame given? Or did she seem to be saying she wanted a more permanent breakup? And, did she give reasons for her distress beyond the change of birth control? In other words, could there be more to her distance than just hormones? Many issues, such as these, must be considered as you think about how to proceed.

    All of that said, when you say she's depressed, I'm not totally clear on your concerns. If you think she's at risk for harming herself or unable to sufficiently care for herself, then you will want to take action sooner -- not to get back together, but to facilitate her getting help.

    Also, keep in mind that even though this has been a difficult week for you, that is not really much time. She might want more space before she's ready to reengage -- if she even wants to.