• 6 days ago

    Please don't judge just need to get this out

    So I am 16 weeks pregnant and just had a sneak peek of the gender about a week ago saying it was a girl but lately I've been feeling really down because I already have a daughter that is from a different dad, other than my husband which of course he knows so now I have all these feelings that my husband will love his daughter more and my older daughter will be asking why didn't she have any of that and it just makes me sad because she's never met her dad. My husband is the only dad she knows. He came around when she was almost 2years old and it's been hard for him to really connect with her. I just feel kind of mad that it's a girl just because I feel sad for my daughter. I just Don't know what to feel

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  • 6 days ago

    RE: Please don't judge just need to get this out

    Look, there is nothing here that you can change so you shouldn't be stressing about it. Try to turn this round, you're going to have another lovely daughter! Don't go looking for future trouble that might never happen. I suspect, though you might not feel this, that these are the pregnancy hormones talking and I think you should talk to your doctor about how sad and anxious you have been feeling lately.
  • 6 days ago

    RE: Please don't judge just need to get this out

    My oldest son is from a different father and I got married to my husband when he was 2 we went on to have 3 more sons together and he loves them all the same. He takes time out to do special things with my oldest since he is 12 now and his brothers much younger. He has always been his dad. I hope the same happens for you try not to worry about it
  • 1 day ago

    RE: Please don't judge just need to get this out

    My second child was supposed to be a girl. I had two ultrasounds where the doctor told me it was a girl. It wasn't. My son wore pink the first month of his life.
  • RE: Please don't judge just need to get this out

    I have a family member who married a woman with the same situation as you—she had a daughter with a man who has been absent this girl’s whole life. He formally adopted her when they married. They went on to have another daughter that was biologically his. I am not directly in that family so there may be things I don’t know but I don’t think he’s ever loved his older daughter less than the younger and I don’t think anyone who didn’t know they were a blended family would guess.