• 8 months ago

    Unsure who is my babies father

    Hello I have been worrying lately as I am unsure how certain the paternity of my unborn son is. Back in June to late July of last year I started sleeping with another man as me and my husband were separated at the time asfter I discovered my husband was having an affair. The last time I had sex with that other man was the night of August 1st. My husband and I decided to give our marriage a second shot and resumed having sex with him within a few days after I left the other man. I had a very heavy period starting on either the 8th or 9th of August, that was the heaviest and most painful period I had ever had where I was passing thick clotty tissue and grey fleshy tissue from what I can remember was 5 or 6 days long. My husband and I kept having sex throughout the month. I remember getting a UTI sometime from the 20th to the 25th because I hadn't of showered after sex. So I went to get antibiotics to cure it. On September 9th I had felt nauseous from smells and was experiencing mild morning sickness as I didn't throw up but almost did. I had a couple more days of nausea on and off till I finally took a test on the 18th and It said I was pregnant. I didn't have insurance at the time so I set up my insurance and it took all the way till December 14th to see an OBGYN. I told her my LMP was August 8th as I couldn't remember if it started the 8th or 9th. She took an ultrasound and put my due date on May 15th based on the LMP and measurements. I had my anatomy scan December 28th and my OB moved my Due date to May 19th. And then I had another scan to follow up on Feb 7th which moved my DUe date to May 22nd. Now because I didn't have a scan in my first trimester, how accurate would my Due date be and is there any possibility the man I was seeing could be the father? I just want to be sure my husband is the father of our unborn son but because I was told scans in the 2nd trimester can be 2 weeks off, it just makes me worried.

Responses

  • 8 months ago

    RE: Unsure who is my babies father

    Have you spoken with your husband about your concerns? If it's possible, I would encourage you to take a noninvasive paternity test, either with your husband or with the man you were seeing. They have kits online for about $990 where a blood sample from the mother is analyzed in a lab and cross referenced with a DNA sample from the possible father. I don't know whether or not that's affordable for you, but the cheaper solution is to do a paternity test once the child is already born. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner if you haven't already. It'll help with the stress and anxiety if he's able to let you know you two can figure it out together. Raising a child together requires teamwork, trust, and communication... consider this a test. Best of luck to you <3 I hope this helped
  • 8 months ago

    RE: Unsure who is my babies father

    If you had a period after sex with the other guy he isn't the father. I had my 1st US at 8wks and measured spot on to my LMP in terms of weeks. By 12 weeks, I was measuring a week ahead. I think since your first US was later it might be less accurate but they keep moving the date later, not earlier. The father is someone you had intercourse with after your LMP
  • 8 months ago

    RE: Unsure who is my babies father

    If you had your period (as heavy and abnormal as it was) the other guy cannot be the father. I am 16 weeks right now and my baby has measured accurately week 7,8,&9, but now it is measuring 4-5 days ahead. (I am high risk so I have tons of ultrasounds). In fact, my first born was a preemie, born 5 weeks early with a full gestational birth weight (7 lbs 9 oz). Everyone thought I must have been wrong about when I conceived but I was seeing a reproductive endocrinologist at the time with weekly ultrasounds so there was no mistaking the date of conception. Some babies just grow faster than others.
  • 7 months ago

    RE: Unsure who is my babies father

    I would tend to think the baby is your husbands. Only way to know 100% is DNA test. Does your husband already know you had sexual relations with another man?