• 10 months ago

    A 2nd Kid??

    My husband of 7 years wants a kid of our own. I already have an almost 12 year old from a previous marriage that we have full time. We are both really busy career wise in addition to preteen activities.(Plus after a long struggle with learning disability we finally have the kiddo on track but still requires a lot of attn and effort) I really don't want to start over with the baby stage at my age (34) and he missed out on how demanding that can be. He's really dead set on this. What do I do?

Responses

  • 7 months ago

    RE: A 2nd Kid??

    Oh no. I mean, NO.
    1. Men usually think about the positive and cute things about babies. You are the one who goes through pregnancy, and you also know that in the end you will take care of your baby most of the time.

    2. You already have a child who need most of you attn. and effort. It would be irresponsible and selfish to get you a new child when you already have one that highly needs you.

    3. He accepted you with a child, and your child should be enough for him.

    4. It feels like a tantrum to me. He's not thinking about your feelings.
    Just go send him to babysit a niece or something to check that from his bucket list.

    5. It is mainly your decision.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: A 2nd Kid??

    Do it. It's not fair for a man to be deprived of fatherhood, if that's something he really wants. I'm 34 and just had my 2nd baby. You'll be fine.