• 7 months ago

    Siblings hated me since early age, I was from a different father, anyone going through the same situation or advice?

    Siblings hated me since early age, I was from a different father, anyone going through the same situation or advice?I was born in 1980, my mom was married before me and had 4 kids, their dad died in 1976. I always thought he was my dad because my mom never told me otherwise until my older sister born in 1968 told me when I was 8 that my dad was this and that and im not their younger sister by blood. When I was 27 I learnt that they never loved me because they always felt like my mom was more loving towards me than them, I have an 11 year old now and they are now transferring that hatred to him, claiming that my mom adores my son more than her other grandchildren, every year in xmas I always spent alone, as my mom would be visiting her oldest daughter, it came to a point where I stopped buying their affection or even wanting affirmation from them that I was worthy to be loved, now this year and last year, and the year before that, my son could not spend xmas with his granny and other grandchildren because of reasons which they used on me while I was growing up. Im trying to equip my son with emotional strength and coping with the rejection because I went through the same thing, now he is depressed and my mom or my older sister have never been able to keep the family together through talks and communication platforms, I dread the road my son is going to travel because once my mom dies, I will be his only relative. I never knew relatives from my father's side but now I think its time I go looking for them, so that my son can have cousins and family to relate to, once I am gone. It hurts so much that children born of the same mom, can treat each other this way, anyone going through the same thing? or knowing someone who is going through the same thing? a little positive encouragement can really help because little inside, im starting to despise my mom, for not putting her foot down but then again, what can she do, you cannot make people love you.

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  • 6 months ago

    RE: Siblings hated me since early age, I was from a different father, anyone going through the same situation or advice?

    I sincerely have sympathy for your situation, as sibling rivalry can be nasty. I would implore you to (1) Try to understand that, if in fact your siblings DO hate you, they have a problem and not you, and (2) See a qualified counselor. These matters can eat on a person, and distract you from feeling as good about yourself as you probably should.
  • 6 months ago

    RE: Siblings hated me since early age, I was from a different father, anyone going through the same situation or advice?

    Wow! I feel for you. I find that very sad being that you all have the same Mother. Even if your Mom did pay more attention to them she's the one who should have sat down and had a talk with each of you together. It's 5 of us and the last sibling is from my Father, now get this, my Mom raised him too! At first we were like WTH! but then you realize this is your blood no matter what side he's from. My Mom was a gem like no other and she's sinced passed away. Not once did he feel unloved by her or us, because whatever happened before he came around was not his fault! How dare your brother and sisters treat you and your son this way. We treat our little brother as if he was born from our Mom. His real mom is now deceased and any bad feelings I had were geared towards her, and my father since she as a woman knew my Dad was married. I had to get over it. I have a nephew from that little brother and I treat him as if he was my own. I'm tough so I would tell them all to go Fk themselves. I implore you to seek out your other family for your childs sake, like you said he won't be left alone..... I do hope this works out for you. God Bless you!