• 4 months ago

    Hard to reach orgasm and there's no pleasure in it. Bad circumcision?

    Hello all,

    I'm a 47 yr old male. I've had big problems with sex from my earliest experiences with it. I recently read a description of the possible bad side effects of circumcision and they mirrored my experience very well.

    - I get erections very easily.
    - The sensation of rubbing the shaft feels very good, but doesn't really stimulate the build up to orgasm.
    - The head and the frenulum can feel good, but often begin to get painful or numb quickly.
    - The ridge behind the head of the penis is very sensitive and rubbing it is how I get to orgasm (if I can.) But there are points on my penis that get very painful from this stimulation even if I use a lot of lube and rub very gently.
    - There is a strange "inversion" feeling that happens often. I'll get closer and closer to orgasm and it inverts. It goes away. The build up kind of shoots into my gonads or gut without release and feels really uncomfortable. The penis is really sensitive at this point and usually painful. If I carefully rub the areas that don't hurt too much I can usually get to orgasm. But sometimes this 'inversion' will happen 2, 3, or 4 times. The effect is to really, really want to have an orgasm, but more and more discomfort, pain, and acidlike burning to get there.
    - Orgasms don't feel good. They are painful, they often burn or I feel nothing at all. Many times I could not tell if I had and orgasm or not.
    - It often takes a long time to get to orgasm. In my younger days I'd masturbate for hours sometimes, just trying to get to the release.
    - If I compare the sensitivity of the anus to the sensitivity of the head of my penis, I'd say the penis has about 20% of the sensitivity.
    - The biggest problem I have is, the more aroused I get, the harder it seems to have an orgasm and the worse it feels. So, being really attracted to someone has the effect of essentially giving me really bad blue balls. To be honest, the lack of enjoyment has left me feeling like I've had blue balls for 35 years. I've gone as long as 12 years between sexual partners, because of the confusion this has caused. It's not that I don't want to have sex. I do, the drive is there. Spring time is here and I'll be seeing women out on the street in less clothing. I have desire, but the sex is so uncomfortable and I get no satisfaction out of it, that most of the time it's better to pretend sex doesn't exist rather than feel the discomfort. I've had few partners. And the ones I've had get discouraged because I never come. Like 7 month relationships without an orgasm. Certainly brings up questions of "Are you really attracted to me?", for both of us.

    Thanks

Responses

  • 4 months ago

    RE: Hard to reach orgasm and there's no pleasure in it. Bad circumcision?

    Hi You say Orgasm, but do you really mean ejaculations?

    Because from what you saying you could be having retrograde ejaculations, this is where your semen goes backwards into your bladder, try reading up on that. OK

    NOWHARD
      • 4 months ago
        The problem is an inability to feel pleasure all the way to orgasm. Very light touch feels good. Especially along the shaft. But as the action increases, the feelings subside. Numbness, pain, burning replace the pleasure. As my partner is feeling more and more pleasure, I'm feeling less and less. The orgasm isn't retrograde. Or maybe it is, but that doesn't bother me so much. It's the lack of pleasure and the lack of feeling satisfied. The inner animal sexual release never happens, but i still have the animal drive for sex.
      • 4 months ago
        Hi Look all your nerve ending are in your frenulum, so is this something you have just got? or is something that's been long term.

        if its a new thing then what have you been doing?

        NOWHARD
      • 3 months ago
        This has been since I started masturbating at 19. That first time felt awful. Like electric jolts, but not pleasurable. Burning sensation too.

        I've been practicing using a super light touch and a lot of lube. This is better. Less pain and some pleasure, but it seems very muted.
      • 3 months ago
        Hi If your saying from your first masturbating that you had always used a hard grip, then this is where your problem has been, so when it comes to sex with a women the vagina cant replicate that kind of grip, so that is why you need the feather light feel when masturbating and as your using a lubrication like, say baby oil, then your now replicating the feel of a vagina when masturbating.

        If this change over is something resent then it will take time for your body to get used to that feel, but just give it time and along with sex your penis will get used to it. OK

        NOWHARD
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Hard to reach orgasm and there's no pleasure in it. Bad circumcision?

    I knew someone who also had a bad circumcision problem....and I definitely know your struggle. This sounds like it really sucks. You really should go to a doctor. Embarrassing, it might be...but you shouldn't be. You should get it checked out.
      • 4 months ago
        Did this person find help for their problems??? I will go to a doctor, but it seems like the medical field doesn't know much about this. I'd like to find a little direction on this before I spend a bunch of time and money talking to doctors that don't have a clue.
      • 1 month ago
        My shaft and balls have gone extremely numb! Should i them checked or what?
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Hard to reach orgasm and there's no pleasure in it. Bad circumcision?

    I've just started having issues... I was in the bathroom rubbing my shaft and, well... It went a bit sore, bloated briefly at the end (i caused that to happen) and it went rather purple! and now ive spent two hours in bed, with my shaft, *** and testicles 100% numb! I've just been sitting hear, typing this up, and ive just gained a bit of feeling in my shaft and testicles... And that only happens went my cocks become erect... And when its not erect, my outter cocks sore! And now im having random, constant erections!