• 1 month ago

    Does anyone else feel this way?

    I feel like scared that nothing will work out, everything could go bad, I own a company and feel like its never going to do well even though it does. I don't want to get up, I don't want to work, its irrational fears and I know it but cant change it. I feel all alone and all by myself because it seems the whole world is revolving and I am an outsider looking in, I want to be part of it. Things I love just seem to not matter anymore and I don't know what to do. How can I convey this to people who don't feel this way? Drinking helps but I hate alcohol now  but at least it stopped me from thinking and then I have the next 4 days are even worse. Its like I am 3 people and I see who I can be and want to be but the irrational fear just doesn't let me get there then I feel guilty about my family and not feeling I am not good enough father, husband, worker. Anyone else feel that way?

Responses

  • 1 month ago

    RE: Does anyone else feel this way?

    Hi there. The answer to your question is absolutely. You are definitely not alone in what you're feeling. If others don't always understand exactly how you feel, that's OK too. That doesn't make your emotions any less real or valid.

    You might consider speaking with a therapist about this. It says here (http://wb.md/2mR62TV) that the five signs of a mental health issue are a change in personality, withdrawal, agitation, poor self-care, and hopelessness. The article also says that if you are experiencing any of these signs, to reach out to a mental health professional or other resources such as mentalhealth.gov or the National Alliance for Mental Health.

    I hope that you'll update us soon. We're here for you, even if it's just to listen ((hugs)). Never forget, you are not alone!
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Does anyone else feel this way?

    I'll let you in on a little secret. We ALL feel lonely, uncertain, lost and scared - all wanting to be seen, touched, heard and paid attention to in the midst of our very real existential detachment from others. No matter how much we try to deceive ourselves, we are born alone and we die alone —it’s called life. As youngsters like to say: we need to "man up", and find our own path & passion - or create one. And more importantly, we need the courage and strength to follow that path, with all its false starts, false hopes, detours -and rewards. Walk tall on your own path - with your own meanings and mistakes and methods. Of course we can give up and fall prey to drugs or religion or simply despair - but what a wasted precious opportunity! You are the captain of your soul. You need to challenge the sweeping generalizations that you accept - about you, your life and your capabilities. You need to examine, and reject, the false foundations of destructive thoughts - and their accompanying feelings of guilt, fear, hate , shame, inferiority and incompetence. Don’t let them poison you, your thinking, your life. It’s an all too short and bumpy journey friend - so don’t make it even harder on yourself than it needs to be. It’s crucial to first accept yourself and all your supposed faults and work from there, Think more about loving than being loved, more about giving than receiving, more about others than yourself. Break out of that dark inner whirlpool that is dragging you down. Hope will replace despair, light will replace darkness, and inner peace and stability will be your companions on this all-too-human journey...
  • 1 month ago

    RE: Does anyone else feel this way?

    Some very similar feelings. I had a mix of severe anxiety with mild depression. Started Lexapro 10 mg, then 15 mg and settled at 20 mg. Took 6 weeks of awful side effects to get to the right dose. I've been on Lex before and knew what to expect (nausea, lack of appetite and a bit of insomnia). The good news is I dropped 10 lbs and I'm now at my target weight. I highly recommend the App Calm. absolutely great meditation app. Free to try (7 days of calm). I loved it so much I opted for the $40/year subscription. I mediate 2-3 times a day for 10-30 min. The Calm app helps describe the issue you're dealing with and provides some great solutions for tacking what you're dealing with. I now feel 100% like my old self, but had my doubts I'd every feel normal again as I was onboarding the meds. I have another great and free mediation program. Happy to answer any questions.