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  • 5 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    I am 25 so not quite the teen you were looking for however I recently (well about 2 years now) figured out that I am living with depression and anxiety and it all started out when I was young.

    I remember how it was to be a teenager. I would dive into a world of video games to hide from the real world and going to school was torture. I was ridden with anxiety.

    The one thing I wished had happened when I was younger was that someone talked to me about emotions. I started looking into spirituality when I was 19/20. I was looking for something 'more' than what I felt was a meaningless, no direction life.

    Thoughts trigger emotions. So she HAS to be thinking about something that is making her sad. She needs to understand herself more. She needs to recognize the different feelings emotions have on the body. It took me years to understand what a certain feeling actually felt like. It's interesting because different feelings resonate in different parts of the body. Check this out: https://goo.gl/images/OYy8AA

    She is sleeping a lot because she is depressed and her tank is either half full or running low. It can be VERY difficult to increase the tank when you have a sense of hopelessness.

    I would strongly suggest she seeks a professional therapist. It saved my life when I was 23. People don't believe other people should know their family business HOWEVER. It is SO powerful. Your daughter has the weight of her world on her shoulders and she is lost. She may not feel comfortable talking to her family because of shame, guilt, fear. You may have built a loving home around her where she can feel free to share, but her THOUGHTS are crippling her.

    She THINKS you wouldn't understand, or that it's no big deal, that she should get over it, or is embarrassed to talk about it. Admitting you have an issue and expressing what that true issue is, is SCARY.

    A lot of my personal strife as a teenager came from fear of judgement and ASSUMING others were judging me.
    It created a deeply rooted anxiety and lead to depression. I was a very emotional little girl and had no one to direct me. My head was SWARMING with all the possible negative outcomes of social interactions, what if this happens what if that happens. What if I say something wrong and everyone laughs, CLEARLY they don't like me and I am stupid and I never want to speak up again.

    Maybe she is a social butterfly, but help her by teaching her that she doesn't always have to think. Her mind is on auto drive and she doesn't have a sense of self.

    Take her to meditation classes, go to yoga, go to the park. She NEEDS vitamin D EVERYDAY and a shower EVERYDAY.
    It's proven to increase endorphin in the body. She should start volunteering.
    As much as she will fight and not want to do anything (because depression kicks you when your down) she has to FIGHT to improve her own circumstances. She needs to be pushed to get involved. Have movie nights, have her help with the cooking, have her start writing, join a team, join clubs.
    She needs to get involved and understand that her thoughts dont rule her. She controls what she is going to think about and whatever sad/depressing/angry thought shes thinking that triggers her emotions. She needs to change it.

    Meditation, Exercise, Sunshine, Showers, AFFIRMATIONS. Motivational Speeches on youtube. Give her a purpose! Give her a drive, a goal, and she will start accomplishing great things! She needs to start with small goals and it will build her sense of accomplishment and power her to tackle and pursue more.

    She will be better off tackling this obstacle now than letting it hold her down for years. You got this!
    Show her you love her and anything she tells you is A-OKAY. Hug her often! Big hugs.
  • 5 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    I'm 22 and have dealt with depression for several years now. Teens with depression are becoming more and more common because of many reasons, the internet is one. That may confuse you and i'd be happy to explain over email, facebook, or skype if you actually would like my help. Albeit im some random person on the web, I am also dedicated to ending suffering for others after discovering the tools to end my own. Knowledge alone wont resolve anything. Making a significant difference in you and your daughter's lives requires serious action and active engagement. If you wish, email me blogbydre@gmail.com
    Good Luck!
      • 5 months ago
        Hi yes thabk you so very much for responding. My facebook account is Jillian ***, pic of me and my 2 sisters, phone number is ***
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      • 5 months ago
        I have a 17 year old daughter. We have. Even dealing with her depression which included one suicide attempt over the past year. We really need to have some type of support group for parents struggling with their depressed teen. I would love to talk. You can email me at caligirl4u4@gmail.com
      • 5 months ago
        Yes , thank you for replying. My email is jillith53@gmail.com. hope to hear from you soon
  • 5 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    Is she being bullied? Kids are viscous at this age, especially girls. If your daughter is even slightly out of their "norms for beauty" they are most likely attacking her.
      • 5 months ago
        She has friends and she always seems to find new ones. She is very pretty not just because I'm her parent. she gets compliments all the time. She is also very assertive.
      • 5 months ago
        Also if she is not cool, does not belong to a certain group, or not dressing in cool styles and if she is perceived as a nerd, is in love with some one who does not care, and death or serious illness among family or friends.please explore and talk to her friends and teachers and school counselors to see what is happening in school.prayers for her fast recovery. One who worked with adolescent girls for 40+ years.
  • 5 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    Bullying is still a possibility unfortunately kids will never tell us if they are Often you find out when they kill themselves
  • 5 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    Your teen needs to be seen immediately by a child and adolescent psychiatrist. If insurance is a problem , there are plenty of community mental health centers in most cities in US. If she is unwilling to see a psychiatrist You may talk to a counselor and encourage her to meet with one , male or female, depending on her choice.If this is not possible. Every school will have a counselor, whom she can talk to. If you need further help, please continue to post here. Good luck, by one who has worked with adolescent girls for 40+ years.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    We have a teen who's gone through depression and anxiety in the past 2 years, 16 1/2 now. They were sad or depressed for several years before we acknowledged just how bad it was. Being the creative type, getting bullied, worrying about the judgements of family and schoolmates made them very anxious. Those two things are typically intertwined. Honestly I think the internet fuels this with all the snarky online websites. Social media can be awful. We had a couple of breakdown nights, emergency room visit, school calls for either panic attacks or zombie-like detachment.

    One of the best things we did was to go to Kaiser mental health and get involved in a teen depression group. My teen met others like themself weekly and the parents had a parallel meeting to talk about dealing with a depressed anxious teen. It helped a lot. Also we allowed our teen to start a low dose of Zoloft which really did help . We also found a MFT that our teen could see alone weekly and sometimes we have a family session. Totally worth doing.
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Worried about my teen daughter

    I would like to say if you believe in the power of prayer that's where I'd start. I would pray for my daughter, then aI would pray with my daughter. Allow her to call the National Crisis Center. If she's in danger they will reach out to you. She'll probably open up to them. 1-800- 273-HELP.
    God Bless you & your daughter.