• 23 days ago

    Scared & anxious

    12 years ago I gave oral to a girl. I didn't know her hiv status. The act lasted for about 3 minutes. I don't remember having any sores in my mouth and washed my mouth out after I had finished. Fast forward to Jan 2017 I was diagnosed with severe anxiety disorders. Since then I've lost a lot of weight (3 stone in 2 months), I can't sleep although I'm so tired and can't eat properly although I'm hungry. I feel nauseous and generally run down all the time. Sometimes I get a dizzy fainting feeling too. Ive also got sores that refuse to heal. One on my face (cold sore I think) one on my wedding ring finger and one on the upper part of my shoulder blade on my back. Should I get tested for hiv?

Responses

  • 22 days ago

    RE: Scared & anxious

    You can but the results will certainly come back as "non-reactive" (negative). On the other hand, getting that nice big negative test result should help with your severe anxiety disorder if you are overly concerned about HIV.

    Gail
  • 19 days ago

    RE: Scared & anxious

    There is no need to redo the test. You are HIV negative. Please put these concerns behind you.

    Gail
      • 19 days ago
        Thank you so much. A weight has been lifted. I just need to calm myself down now. The last few days have been hell! I will start by celebrating with chocolate!
      • 17 days ago
        I've been really struggling with putting this behind me, Gail. It's the dot being so faint that's making me doubt the test.
      • 17 days ago
        Oral sex (both giving and receiving) carries an EXTREMELY low risk of HIV transmission. Think along the lines of a risk of .5 to 1 per 10,000 exposures with a source KNOWN to carry the virus. It appears you do not even know if your partner was infected with the virus in the first place.

        In an infected (and untreated) individual it takes, on average, about a decade to move from HIV to the end stage of the disease (AIDS). Quite honestly, if you had been infected a dozen years ago from this event and had been untreated through all those years you'd either be VERY, VERY ill with highly significant symptoms or (frankly), dead by now.

        You don't have HIV. You have severe anxiety. Work on that problem, OK?

        Gail
      • 16 days ago
        I hear you. But then i read about people going 14 or so years without any symptoms and then I'm back to worrying again.
      • 14 days ago
        You don't have HIV... You have a mental illness. I am not saying that to be rude or demeaning. But you are HIV negative, but yet you refuse to believe that and incessantly worry about a risk that isn't there....you have an underlying mental issue. Please see a therapist.