• 10 days ago

    Crisis in Marriage

    Husband is ill. Has a mass on his abdominal aorta. Suffering from anxiety and depression. I am a mental health patient, I am fortunate to have an excellent resource that helps me maintain and function daily. My psychiatrist, mentor and medications. However, just today I found out that my husband ask a friend, for a favor of buying him some technology equipment to the tune of $2,500.00. I have request both he and she refrain from communicating via text or phone calls, because in the past this person, crossed the line of our friendship;. When I confronted him on what I had come across, he didn't deny it, actually boast that it was done 3 weeks ago. He was not hiding anything and that I had not right to be upset. It is not so much the question of this person doing him a favor so much as having the decency of informing me at the precise time of such action so I was aware and could voice my opinion or opposition to this action. He further went and destroyed my cell phone and thinks that by telling me not to get upset, I have no valid excuse, and insult my intelligence. I am at the point ....... too upsetting to continue.

    I don't know who reads these post, I don't even know if I am doing the right thing by posting it in this forum, but I feel like I have my hands tied.

Responses

  • 10 days ago

    RE: Crisis in Marriage

    Hi What's going on here is like a couples tiff and its only you two who can sort it out if you can, if you cant then you both be on a downwards slide. OK

    NOWHARD
  • RE: Crisis in Marriage

    You say you are a mental patient. I'm wondering whether you have a therapist, and if you do, I suggest that you bring this issue there both for support and to help you sort it out.

    Also, while it's difficult for us to know exactly what happened from you post, it is clear that you feel disregarded and disrespected by your husband. This is clearly a big problem. I'm wondering whether you generally feel this way in your relationship or whether it is somehow specific to this issue. If it is more the way things generally are, I'm concerned for your emotional well-being -- and it would be all that much more important for you to talk with your therapist (or, if you don't have a therapist, perhaps to get one). Also, I'm wondering whether you have tried to talk with him at a calmer moment -- a time when maybe you can both talk with each other in a more constructive way.
  • 5 days ago

    RE: Crisis in Marriage

    go to a therapist! what kind of mass? sounds like if you are not his center of his universe you get pissed off. Was married to a control freak like you divorcing her was the best thing I ever did!