• 17 days ago

    Intimacy Issues

    My boyfriend and I have been unable to have sex with one another because of several issues. One, he is unable to maintain an erection, he has been diagnosed with a spine spur, and three, he has no sex drive whatsoever. I am afraid he may have ED, however it seems like we have gotten nowhere with doctors. I just want to have a normal sex life with my boyfriend. Does anyone have any suggestions or recommendations as to what we could or should do?

    Thank you


  • 17 days ago

    RE: Intimacy Issues

    I'm assuming his spine spur is causing him pain and that the other issues are related, right? I mean, if it hurts to have sex then it stand to reason that he's not going to be keen on it. Pain can also have a very negative effect on his erection. How does his doctor propose to manage the pain? Meds? Surgery?

    I'd suggest you try positions that don't put pressure on his back - doggy might be a good place to start, especially if you are over the bed (table, kitchen counter, etc.), http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/evtryusedofb.html

    You mentioned he'd seen doctors but has he seen a urologist? IF not then make an appointment today. A urologist can at least tackle his erectile issue.

    Good luck to you!
      • 16 days ago
        fcl Guys with ED cant do doggy, ED means he cant get and erections good enough for sex.

      • 16 days ago
        I'm thinking that the pain is causing the ED so if he can find a position where he isn't in pain he might not have a problem getting erect ...
      • 8 days ago
        Then I would say cowgirl would be far better as then he has no pressure on his back, and let her do all the work, but its maintaining a good strong erection.

        I will tell you ED is no fun what ever age you are.

  • RE: Intimacy Issues

    You and your boyfriend might find it helpful to see a sex therapist to work through these issues. You might try finding one by looking them up with the American Association of sexuality educators, counselors and therapists: https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory
  • 16 days ago

    RE: Intimacy Issues

    HI What kind of a life style does he have? is he a fast and junk food with lots of sodas freak as these are high in salt and sugars, and how about alcohol and smoking, these are all good sex killers.

    Is he on any kind of meds? as some meds are sex killers.

    Does he get out and exercise ? as exercise is good for blood flow and his heart, as men do need a good blood flow for good erections.

    Seeing a urologist is a very good idea, to see why he is not getting any erections he can have a doppler test to check his penal blood flow.

  • 8 days ago

    RE: Intimacy Issues

    Why are are you trying to have marital relations if you aren’t married? Get married, then work on marital issues... sometimes that resolves these kinds of “problems”.
      • 8 days ago
        And if there not resolved you end with a husband who cant make love or get any kind of erection, so ends in divorce.

        Love makes the world go round? but not will ED its a real sex killer for us guys, like you will never know.

  • 8 days ago

    RE: Intimacy Issues

    Hi Kelsey this is something I should have put , but somehow its slipped my mine, as you read had ED and won, as your see nohard to nowhard and its all drug free apart from some supplements I take.

    Lets just say its a try, as all men are so different.

    Hi Guys this is my main mix for you blood and take this most days of the week, and as you see its very good for a few other things all researched.

    For a start this mix is a great way of cleaning away cholesterol plaque from our blood, and helps control triglycerides and keep your numbers right, and will improve your erections.

    The way out and clearing away plaque would be to get on Cayenne Pepper, Turmeric with black pepper and garlic, take this each morning and see how you go.

    For each heaped teaspoon of turmeric you add a ¼ teaspoon of ground black pepper, this helps the turmeric to get absorbed into your system better.

    The whole mix its all very healthy for you.

    You just mix CP and Turmeric and BP 50/50 in olive oil and then mix with tomato paste and thin it with olive oil, at first you just mix this to a heat ( this the heat that CP gives off) that suits you, and over time you can slowly increase the CP and Turmeric.

    Take the turmeric and BP as 50% of the 50/50 mix. OK

    You take 3 teaspoonful’s each morning first thing, you wash each spoonful down with water, before anything else just after you get up, one thing it will warm you up with this mix, which will also help would be very fine chopped garlic, just do a whole head, chopped fine, and keep in olive oil, with this you add dried parsley, a couple of good desert spoonful’s and mix, you can also add dried oregano, you just add a teaspoonful on top of the CP an turmeric mix, just mix into the top take as said.

    The Parsley its very good for the blood and helps keep your Cholesterol down, you can also add some oregano in as well as its good for erections.

    Please do keep both jars in the fridge, keeps a lot better that way.
    A good tip is do not fill you jar to the top leave about half an inch, its the tomato paste it expands from the olive oil, it then push's red oil out of the jar, and loves to explode out from under the lid as you open it, messy.

    Now if you google and read up about all above, there very good for ED, your cholesterol, heart and it clears blocked arteries and veins, good at lowering HBP, prostate, prostatitis, varicocele and RA, garlic is also very good for your blood, so along with the CP and turmeric with BP, your be doing your body the world of good.

    Turmeric is a great way of fighting and lowering your triglyceride numbers when you have high cholesterol, and turmeric is also a way of fighting certain cancers.

    Turmeric has some fantastic uses, you will be amazed at, like so many herbs and spices do.

    Now if your on any kind of blood thinner's don't take the Turmeric as its a blood thinner as well, means your blood will get to thin.

    At first you really need to be taken this 3 times a day for 2 weeks then just 2 times once first thing and the second before a meal for 2 weeks, then just once a day first thing in the mornings, great way to start the day.

    And yes have had ED now in recovery and do take what is above daily along with other supplements and a hormone.
    So do hope this helps you.

    Good Luck


    PS This really needs a 12 week trail, to see if its going to work for you, if its for RA do increase it up, the stronger it is the better it works for you.

    Don’t forget to up the amount of CP and turmeric as you go on.

    Now for me, these days as its almost around 7 years being on this mix, I do a standard mix which has 4 rounded desert spoons of cayenne pepper and turmeric in it, and l mixed up, then daily I put some more olive oil on the top, add the 1/4 teaspoon of black pepper then a heaped teaspoon of CP and the same of turmeric add on the heaped teaspoon of garlic and mix this in the top layer and I now take 4 teaspoons of the mix, some days it can get me but most days I'm ok
    as for supplements its L-Arginine Tribulus, L-Carnitine, DHEA and just some daily vits, but I do wash them down with a boric acid mix, boric acid has the tag of being the poor mans Viagra, a standard mix is a 1/4 teaspoon in a litre of water and drink through the day, I mix at a bit stronger as I only take it first thing in the mornings, but as they say every little helps .

    Be warned some days my mix will make your stools a bit on the lose side, it does me, but I do not worry over it.

    The last piece of info is I do have ground down green tea, with ground down natural Tribulus which I can buy here in Greece I can make a teapot last 2 days by just adding some extra, then have 2 days on black tea, I drink both with honey and lemon two more things that are very good for your blood, of a night I have 2 squares of 70% bark chocolate, something else that's so good for your blood, I think like I have said above get your blood working for you, and your about 2/3 of the way to getting some really good erections.

    I don't think this is in here but have warn a *** ring 24/7 just after things was getting better just to give that extra hardness, I have a Hardwear Ice from my hardwear, its a Pyrex full package ring, great to wear.

    I get good nocturnal erections that wake me up, and lots of morning woods not bad for a guy who is 70, and yes still have a sex life.

  • 1 day ago

    RE: Intimacy Issues

    Try something new...try playing out one of his fantasies or one of urs..make sex more fun and out of the box..