• 28 days ago

    Not sure what to do.....

    Hello,

    My husband and I separated back in March. We had various issues we both needed to work on. The thing that forced the separation was me discovering he was texting and calling another woman. Even though he said they were just friends and that nothing else happened, this wasn't okay with me. While separated, he actually went to live with her and they ended up dating. After finding that out, I also started to date. About a month or so ago, I felt less angry about what happened and said that we could start to work on things. Him and I started going to counseling again and he was working on cutting ties with the other woman. And then it all changed. She contacted him this weekend and said she thought she was pregnant. They went to the hospital and confirmed that she was. There hasn't been a paternity test, yet. I now have a huge decision to make. Do I stay and help raise this child or do I leave? Right now, I am more hurt about the fact that he really had zero concern for me or marriage while being with her. This could have been prevented if they had used protection. I know I am strong person and can rise above in order to accept this woman and child into my life, but I am not sure if I really want to. I guess I am just looking for some advice from people in my shoes. Women who maybe left or chose to stay and made it work.

    Thank you!!

Responses

  • 28 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    Hi Look not a women, to be very honest I would walk away and let him wallow in his own muck, that he seems have built a pile of, just walk away for your own good.

    NOWHARD
  • 28 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    Run, don't walk from this situation. You deserve much better.
  • 27 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    He has disrespected you on all accounts. From start to finish. Even having unprotected sex with this woman was a major violation to begin with. His blatant disregard of you SHOWS you how much he actually values you. Forget what he TELLS you...his actions prove that he viewed you as disposable and replaceable. Now it's time to treat him the way he treated you. There is absolutely NO reason why you should have to spend your life paying for his mistakes. Trust me, if you don't think this woman giving birth to your man's baby and then you having to raise it is not going to end the relationship eventually, sorry to break it to you, you're wrong. This woman is now the mother of his child, thus a forever bond has formed between them and their child. It was bad enough he did all of this while you guys were separated....Jeez really shows how bad he was feeling from the break up to move in and impregnate another woman....he mourned your relationship ZERO before moving on with another woman. Please wake up and smell the coffee. I pray you will talk to someone. I pray you stay strong and would rather be ALONE than be with a man who treats you like such utter trash that YOU ARE NOT. You are not trash. You are not disposable. YOU DO NOT DESERVE BETRAYAL. Let him have someone as sleezy as he is. YOU are not that. Please realize that. You deserve better. I pray you will finally see this and break away from this user and abuser.
      • 27 days ago
        Thank you. I know I will be fine without him, I was just fine during the separation. He is proving over and over that our marriage isn't important to him. He's told me, if it's between me and the baby, it will always be the baby.
      • 25 days ago
        So the other women has left him holding the baby, shows what a right cow she is then and now he wants you to take it on, just tell him two words.

        Good Bye,

        NOWHARD
  • 16 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    Me Well I wouldn't stay in the relationship
    #1 he lied to you that he wasn't seeing or texting the other woman.
    #2 now he got her pregnant
    #3 regardless if you do give him the chance to start all over with you You will always have his"lover, ex baby mama " in yours and his life due to there is a CHILD involved.
    #4 you wouldn't be happy and things are not ever the same when you take an ex back!!
    #5 it's all on you no anyone to make the choice for you cause your the one who will be living with him!
    #6 FOLLOW WHERE YOUR HEART LEADS YOU!✌️and GOD BLESS YA!
  • 14 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    When it comes to relationship questions, we always subconsciously know what to do.. You said, "zero concern for me". There you go.
  • 10 days ago

    RE: Not sure what to do.....

    This is very one sided, I would be interested to hear the husbands point of view. All wives are not perfect creatures and all husbands are not dogs. Makong no asdumptios, but just speaking from experience, when a man's needs are not being met by his wife he is more likely to.be looking for opportunity to get them met.
      • 9 days ago
        And an even halfway decent individual gets divorced first before sniffing around others ... That, in itself, effectively makes this husband a dog.