• 8 months ago

    Sexually Frustrated......

    Hello. I am writing because I have been married for 6 years to an amazing and awesome guy. The problem that I am having is that I believe I have a higher sex drive than him. I am 35. He is 40. I feel we are awesome roommates and excellent business partners. I keep asking myself than maybe im too fat or maybe he not attracted to me anymore. We usually have intimacy maybe 1 time every 2 weeks. I don't believe this is normal ESPECIALLY for a man!! Please help. I understand we have a busy life, but honestly, a girl has needs.....

Responses

  • 8 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    have him get a work up make sure everything is right
  • 8 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    Hi julia5205.

    This is a problem that quite common on our boards so you are definitely not alone. Have you considered talking to a counselor who may be able to help you articulate a way to communicate this to your partner? Sex is by no means everything in a relationship, but it plays a large role in any relationship.

    Here are 10 reasons why men don't want to have sex: http://wb.md/2cBUqTe . Do any of these reasons apply to him? Hormonal levels and sexual functionality tend to change when a man gets older.

    Here are ways to fix sexual problems in your relationship: http://wb.md/2cBUnXu . Have you discussed with your partner what turns you on and what satisfies you the most?

    You know as well as I do that you deserve to have your needs met! I think you owe it to yourself to seek a professional who will help you to communicate your desires to your partner.

    Please keep us posted! We care about you and want to know how you're doing. We're for you ((hugs)).
  • RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    I'm wondering whether the situation you shared is a change from what your sex life had previously been like, or if it's always been this way. If there has been a change, it can help to try to identify the cause. As has been suggested, you want to rule out a medical problem. In any case, the best thing to do is to talk openly with your husband about the situation. You will want to focus on your feelings and the desire to be closer, and steer clear of talking in a way that makes him feel blamed or judged. He will hopefully want you to be happy, and then you can work together to bridge the gap -- hopefully making him happier, too.
  • 7 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    is he straight maybe he prefer boys
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    I'm mid 30's and been married for 10 years now. At first the sex life was great, but it has become non-existent!! Going on 2 years with no sex, but you should see how big my forearms are now. Not sure if its a sex drive issue for your guy, but I know its not on my part. I would talk to him about it and see what might be able to change
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    Has he always been like this or is it something that developed over the years? If so, can you tie it to any particular event? Do you have children?
  • 4 months ago

    RE: Sexually Frustrated......

    A full medical & psych work ups are a good starting point. A loss of libido often has an under laying medical reason. Often it is the first sign of a serious medical issue. It was in my case