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  • 10 months ago

    RE: I Have a Favorite Child

    Dear capslock1,
    I come from a big family with several brothers & sisters. Obviously, my parents have their favorite kids too. They made it so obvious that everyone knows. Their favorites are quick to use this advantage. They will get them to help whenever they have conflict with brothers & sisters. They always have the privileges, yet nobody will talk or enforce their responsibility.
    Now, we all grow up. Looking back, I am deeply thankful that I am not the favorite kid. At least, I learned to resolve conflict on my own. I learned to balance privileges and responsibility. Since I am not over protected, I pick up the survival skill earlier.
    Still, I feel bad. My parents not only spoiled their favorite kids, they actually spoiled the relationship among kids, thus weakened the family bond significantly.
  • 9 months ago

    RE: I Have a Favorite Child

    I have three grown kids, I wouldn't say I favorite my daughter Rebecca over the other two. socially and personality wise, we click way better than her siblings.
  • 9 months ago

    RE: I Have a Favorite Child

    My knee jerk reaction to all of the comments here is that it's natural to have these emotions. It's another thing to actually tell your children that there is a favorite. Kids know who the favorite(s) is/are most of the time, but as parents it's up to us to be kind about it. Unfortunately not all parents are. Some kids are tough as nails and breeze through it with no consequence while others are super sensitive and it proceeds to impact them through everything in their lives. At the risk of generalizing, I like the comment about being glad they weren't the favorite because I have personally seen many "favorites" end up messier than the other kids. As parents we are raising future adults...not future favorites.
  • 7 months ago

    RE: I Have a Favorite Child

    We are drawn to some personalities more than others even if they're our own children. Just make sure you are being fair and that they each know all the things you love about them individually.
  • 9 days ago

    RE: I Have a Favorite Child

    Every mom I know -- whether they admit it or not -- has a favorite child.